[FuzzyItalian]

I was totally taken off guard this past saturday. Preparing dinner for the guy I've been dating for 4 months. Just about 5 the phone rings and it's him -- I figured he was calling to let me know he was running late... WRONG instead he told me didn't want to argue about it he made a decision and it was over. No chance to talk. This is the same man who on Friday told me he loved me, thought i was beautiful and wanted to marry me. I do very much love him Just completely blown away. Am I nuts.

[Illusion24]

He probably got caught up in the moment...and now the emotions are hitting. Some guys tend to say things because it's the correct moment and the stars are aligned a certain way...crazy!!

If you love him and he truly meant those words...don't lose faith. When and if, he comes around don't take him in so easily...Let him know he can't be playing with your emotions.

But on the other hand, it's pretty immature in is part to say those words to you and lead you on when he knew all this time he didn't want a relationship...All I can think about right now is that he must have 1. been with someone else and like her better or 2. Realized he made a mistake...

Whatever the reason is I would have told him something to put him in his place. I would have not b!tched at him (men hate that, plus you don't want him to know you're going crazy) but I would have mentioned the fact that he played with your emotions and that's not cool..

Men know what they want, Boys go for what they can't have...You need a man, it's obvious he's not one.

[Marshbear]

What a loser if he can't even give you anything other than " it's over". Some people when they break up don't want to give you a reason or they will just lie and make one up. I don't know which way is worse. I believe that your SO deserves an explanation but some just feel to uncomfortable doing it. Closure is nice but if you can't get it what can you do? Just accept it's over and be glad he told you now than at the alter.

[westernxer]

Why do you think you're nuts? Unless there are other issues between the two of you, I'd advise you to kick him to the curb.