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Old 23rd April 2005, 8:59 PM   #1
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ex girlfriend goes crazy

Ok, so my ex (who I was in a seroius six month relationship in) and I broke up last August. Since then we haven't talked at all. Harsh breakup, etc.

Then all of a sudden at 2a today I get these text messages from her saying that she "needs to talk" and that it's "important." After a few minutes of ignoring them they turn into "I really need to talk I already broke my jaw and my nose and I've lost hearing in one ear. I screwed up with you and I'm sorry and I just want to talk. I won't be along much longer." Or she said something to that effect.

So I call her back and she says she can't talk on the phone, and tells me to get online. I tell her I'm out and when I get back I get online.

So, I'm fairly drunk at this point, and she tells me how she messed up and how she is "so sorry," etc. Then she talks about how she hurt herself (I'm not sure how she managed it, but she did break her jaw and nose and ear or something) because of the "nightmare of doing so much harm to you and your family." Or something to that effect. At this point I'm "loling" at her because this seemed funny to me or something. I was drunk. I asked her about her and her fiancee and she says that things haven't been better between them. I believe her, so it's not like she wants me back. But that kind of pissed me off and I "lol'd" at her some more and when she signed off I texted her phone ending it in "bye slut."

Any reads on this girl? I have no idea what's going on, or what to do. I apolegized to her when I woke up today and if she talks to me again I'm planning on just ignoring her self-hurting/suicide threats and all. Can I do that?
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Old 23rd April 2005, 9:54 PM   #2
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You sure as hell can.
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Old 23rd April 2005, 10:56 PM   #3
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don't let your anger get the best of you man, especially now. my ex was cheating on me with her ex-bf for 2-3 months while we were going out. i just found out last thursday after we had already broken up. so yea i confronted her about it, told her she was such a bad and evil person and everything. but at the end of the day she is still a human being, and i forgave her for what she did because that was the right thing to do. as much as i want her to hurt right now, i can't do it because it wouldn't make me feel any better in the long run.
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Old 23rd April 2005, 10:59 PM   #4
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The best reaction is NO reaction.

The more you call her a "slut" or go off on her the more she's going to know she got to you. Don't give her the satisfaction of seeing how hurt and angry she made you. Don't wear your emotions on your sleeve, it gets people worse when you show nothing at all.
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Old 24th April 2005, 1:36 PM   #5
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You sure as hell can.
And you sure as hell should.

You are not responsible for the actions of another person. If this girl wants to go and kill herself, then that is her own business. She can blame anyone she wants, but she is responsible for whatever she chooses to do.

An ex-girlfriend of mine once did try to kill herself because I had verbally expressed how much I disliked her. She failed at the attempt, was hospitalized, and her parents decided to get the police to harass me over the situation. There was nothing anyone could do to get me in any sort of trouble; I could have even told this girl that I hoped she would kill herself and I would have been in the clear.

Just ignore her frantic crazy talk and know that, whatever stupid things she does, you are in no way responsible. Even if she does something horrible and blames you, and the police start calling, just hang up on them.
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Old 24th April 2005, 2:37 PM   #6
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Go get tested for crazy. Hopefully she wasn't contagious.
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Old 24th April 2005, 3:53 PM   #7
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look the last thing you want is someone killing themselves on your conscious. cmon people, we are all better than that. i don't care how badly your ex may have hurt you, you don't want her death on your conscience. that is why i let my ex apologize to me and everything, I just don't want anyone to be hurt anymore.
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Old 24th April 2005, 6:39 PM   #8
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I read nothing that alludes to her wanting to kill herself. Don't jump to conclusions.

Whatever problems she has, they are now hers, not his.
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