[heavenly]

When I met my husband we were seniors in high school. We fell in love and were married 2 years after our first date.

I've never been a thin person. I was about 20 pounds overweight when we met; after we got married I packed on another 20 or 30 pounds. Then I got pregnant. After having our first daughter I went on Weight Watchers and lost just under 40 pounds and was at my lowest weight in more than 3 years. Then I got pregnant again last year and am currently on WW again and working very hard to lose that baby weight.

I am by no means a nymphomaniac; if I have the energy to make love to my husband twice a week that's an accomplishment (hey, chasing around 2 kids can really drain you!). About once every two or three weeks I will approach him about having some fun (wink wink). 9 times out of 10 I will hear
I'm tired
I'm sore (from work)
I'm full (from eating)
You yelled at me earlier (believe it or not, he's older than me LOL)
I'm busy (chatting online, talking on the phone, playing video games)

If I only heard these occasionally or even every other time it wouldn't bother me so much. But he constantly turns me down for sex, and it's made me start wondering if there is something wrong with me, or if he's even still attracted to me. The excuses (as I call them) bleed over into other areas of our marriage - sometimes I'll just want to talk with him (he works 2nd shift and we don't see each other much during the week), watch a movie with him, whatever...and I'll usually get one of the above responses.

The other thing that gets me is that when he's in the mood we're supposed to do it right here, right now - even if I'm tired, sore, full, etc etc. It's like he only wants to have sex when he wants it.

I've tried numerous times to talk to him about this and he promises to make more of an effort but then doesn't do anything. He blames work and says I should come to him on the weekends - so I do, and I still hear the same damn excuses most of the time.

I love him, and I know he loves me but I just don't know what else to do. This has eroded my self-esteem and made me feel so unattractive, even though I'm working so hard to lose the weight that needs to be lost.

Has anyone else been in this situation? Can you shed some light? Any input is most appreciated.

Thanks!