christian + non-christian r/ships = success or not?
hey people!
Im curious to know how many of you out there are Christian and are in (or have been in) a r/ship with a non-Christian (who arent full on athiest)... do these r/ships work? have they worked for you?
comments/opinions plz...
Big mistake... don't do it unless you have the same beliefs (or are open minded to each other's differences). I learned from first-hand experience, and I'll never do it again.
I disagree. I was with a guy for 2 1/2 years. We were perfectly happy and accepting of eachother's religon. (I'm Jewish and he's Christian). We didn't break up because of the religon, however, I had a lot of stuff to figure out about myself.
my current bf does not support "organized religion"....what ever that means. and he not very open-minded at all, though he Thinks he is. His skewed political views get all mixed with everything, and taint a lot of his POV's. (IMO)
i was brought up in a great church, very invovled. But i have always had my own thoughts and ideas about my god. I love to hear/ learn about other peoples beliefs as it helps develope my personal understanding of what god is.
i do get sick of my bf saying mean things about religion, church, ceremonies, etc........ he can certainly keep it to himself.... plus when i get married i want a religious wedding in a church, i have a hard time seeing him doing that.
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I was raised Christian and have gone to church pretty much my whole life. However, I would date other religions. I am pretty liberal and know there may not be one "right" religion. Buddhists and Jews I would have no problem dating and have. People who don't follow organized religion is O.K too. I understand why some people are against it.
However not believing in anything greater than ourselves makes me sad and I could never date anyone who believes that. I also would pass up dating a Mormon or Muslim because it has foundations that I just don't feel I
understand and can live my life with that way.
Hokey, do you have kids? I can see how it can work if one partner doesn't have convictions. and doesn't care one way or another.
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i do get sick of my bf saying mean things about religion, church, ceremonies, etc........ he can certainly keep it to himself.... plus when i get married i want a religious wedding in a church, i have a hard time seeing him doing that.
That doesn't sound promising. You'll have to have long religion talks before marriage. And not just about the wedding itself, but about your lives afterward. Whether you'll baptize your kids etc... Also, what if he agrees to baptism, but he bitches about it all the time, that would be annoying.
HoldOn~ yes, i know. but i do not think we are each others "It". at least not right now.
Religion being one reason. well it is really his lack of respect for my beliefs, and how and what i was raised to believe.
my kids will be baptised, i decided that long ago.
Originally posted by Groovy
I also would pass up dating a Mormon or Muslim because it has foundations that I just don't feel I understand and can live my life with that way.
I know what you mean, Groovy. I was raised Mormon and only needed to get married to become a full-fledged member of Mormon society... that's when I split.
Originally posted by HoldOn
Hokey, do you have kids? I can see how it can work if one partner doesn't have convictions. and doesn't care one way or another.
We had two children. April 7 was the 6th anniversary of my 13 y/o daughter passing away, and May 10 will be the 3rd anniversary of my 14 y/o son passing away.
We taught them about Religion / Christianity / God and the various churches. They knew that they could explore any of them that they wanted to explore--including Judiasm and Islam and Budhist, etc. (sorry if I'm spelling incorrectly 0-0 I'm rushed)
Because my husband and my family are Christian, (and we live in the Bible belt) that was the religion that they had the most exposure.
By example, they saw that people of different faiths, or no faith, can live lovingly and happily together because we respect each other. They knew that they could be baptised if and when they were ready.
They knew that their belief was theirs and not dictated by us. You see, the Christians that I know have all said the same thing: Ask for God or Jesus to come into your heart, and He will. Teaching about religion and exposing them to worship and study is not brainwashing if the exposure comes with our respect of their wishes of whether they want to open themselves to God or question like me.
I think they were both on the path to faith and ready to believe, but I don' t know what they had taken into their hearts at the times of their deaths. Their father and my mother prayed with them and for them, but they never asked for prayer or a minister or anything. They did not show their fear, they had faith in our love for them.
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