I´ve been doing NC w/ her since the late last month, in may is her bday. Should I just send her a quick message saying happy bday? or should I ignore it and continue NC?
Originally posted by nonickname
I´ve been doing NC w/ her since the late last month, in may is her bday. Should I just send her a quick message saying happy bday? or should I ignore it and continue NC?
Well if you message her then trust me you will have to repent and this will be harder to bear that what you are going right now.
For God sake No contact is NO CONTACT it does not have fine prints saying "excluded on B'days, aniversaries or the days when you wish to message"
A quick message and long message are both quick message, don't try to become pathetic in front of her, uphold your dignity
Good Luck,
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Love!!~ WTF is that ???
She is an ex! And you are doing NC. DOesn't matter if its her b-day, her moms, her dogs, who cares?
If you send a message you know your going to start wondering if she'll write back, if she got it, what did she think when she got it....you'll drive yourself nuts!!
I suggest you don't do it and continue NC. Be strong!!!
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The male brain is more compartmentalized than the female brain. Men can seperate things whereas women have a harder time cause their brains are all wired together in some inter-connected mish-mosh.
If you send her a birthday wish and she doesn't respond, how will that affect you?
If you send her a birthday wish and she responds, how will that affect you?
If you send her a birthday wish and she responds and tells you how wonderful her life is, how will that affect you?
If you send her a birthday wish and she responds and tells you how awful her life is, how will that affect you?
After considering those questions, decide whether or not you should send her a birthday wish.
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People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar. - Thich Nhat Hanh
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Reading: The God Delusion by Richard Dawkins
dont do it. how are you going to feel when she doesnt contact when its your birthday and you contacted her on her last? your going to be pissed, right? might as well be the first to show that you dont care, thats how i see it.
Well i disagree.. I think its ok. I am planning on sending my ex a message saying Happy Birthday. It just all depends what you want from her, why youre doing it etc..
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Love Is Blindness, I Dont Wanna See - U2
Don't send your ex little cards or messages, or phone your ex with little happy birthday comments and such. I don't think it is going to be helpful at all. I know it's difficult to realize that the ex really doesn't want to have you involved in her life, when you used to be so involved. I have never had a good experience with phoning a happy birthday wish, or a holiday wish, or sending cards to an ex.
If you still know what she is up to when she dies, you can give her a get well card at her funeral. I wouldn't do anything before then, though.
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