I just got broken up with in a voice mail! We had "the talk" 3 days ago! WTF?!
Get this. 3 days ago I had "the talk" with the guy that I've been seeing for about a month and a half. Tells me that he's not sleeping with anyone else and I reiterated this on my end.
So, today, a day that we had planned on getting together, I get a voice mail from him that says, "I can't see you anymore because I just don't like you very much." WTF? He didn't even have the f*cking decency to talk to me personally on the phone!
Christ, I'm 35 years old. I'm not in friggin' high school. I can't believe that someone would be so f*cking callous!
[font=times new roman][color=indigo]what a jerk. U are better off iwthout him. Anyone who can leave that on your voicemail
Can you imagine if you two were married..? YUck
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Originally posted by tiki
He's acting like he's a porn star or something.
Sorry, hadta.
I know, I know, Tiki. Figured that someone was going to say something about this. To be honest though, I didn't think that this was even an issue at this point.
The thing that gets me is the hanging out a couple times a week for the last month and a half, making plans with me for today even... What an a$$!
Originally posted by tiki
So you guys have been dating for a month???
Man, how weird. Atleast you found this out sooner and not later, but that's just weird.
It's been over a month... about a month and a half now. We've been talking on the phone and communicating via email since the beginning of February too, before we even got together for our 2nd date (the first one was back in August and we emailed a bunch back then too).
I agree. Glad that I found out now, but it is too weird. It's funny... He told me on when I saw him a few days ago that he's not very nice and I thought, "What a weird thing to say." Also, that he once broke up with a girl in a mixed CD that he made for her. I thought that that was f*cked up too, but I just ignored it really, thinking that it must have been something that he did when he was younger.
Now it means a lot more since he did this voice mail sh** to me!
Count your blessings that this was not a long term relationship. I was with my ex for 4 1/2 years we talked of marriage the entire nine yards. Almost six months ago while I was gone for the weekend due to work..he packed a U-Haul and left me...all I was left with was a note..saying that he cared for me but didn't love me. A week before this he had called me at work telling me he loved me and about how he was going to paint the hallway etc.
I say any man or woman that can't tell you face to face that they're leaving lacks integrity and are worthless people. The only way I can see someone sneaking off is if there is a violent relationship etc. I'm still kicking myself because I never in a billion years thought he's end the relationship in this kind of manner!
Originally posted by beejsea2
Count your blessings that this was not a long term relationship. I was with my ex for 4 1/2 years we talked of marriage the entire nine yards. Almost six months ago while I was gone for the weekend due to work..he packed a U-Haul and left me...all I was left with was a note..saying that he cared for me but didn't love me. A week before this he had called me at work telling me he loved me and about how he was going to paint the hallway etc.
I know a man that left his wife (of like 50 years) a Dear John letter while she was out to the zoo with their daughter and grandchild. He's old as hell too.
That is brutal. But... at least you have no doubts, and won't make the mistake of trying to 'figure out what is going on' or 'trying to work it out'. You know without a doubt that he saved you from trying to hold on to someone who isn't worth your time to hold on to. It was a harsh way to do it, though.
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Originally posted by beejsea2
Count your blessings that this was not a long term relationship.
I say any man or woman that can't tell you face to face that they're leaving lacks integrity and are worthless people. The only way I can see someone sneaking off is if there is a violent relationship etc. I'm still kicking myself because I never in a billion years thought he's end the relationship in this kind of manner!
No sh**! I'm seriously glad that it wasn't a long term relationship... F*ck, if you can do this to someone, WHO ARE YOU? It's so MEAN! I don't even know what to say about what kind of person he is... I'm seriously stunned, nor would I ever do this to anyone.
Tiki,
I sent him an email asking him what happened... I would really like some closure on this. Don't know if I'll get it. Guess I'll just have to wait and see. Thank god for therapy tomorrow!
Christ, I got out of a relationship (4 years) at the beginning of January. Talk about trust issues that I'll have after this.
Yeah, the breaking up with someone in a CD is pretty messed up! Again, I just thought it was something that he did when he was young. Maybe he just likes being f*cking mean to women, or something...
Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia
That is brutal. But... at least you have no doubts, and won't make the mistake of trying to 'figure out what is going on' or 'trying to work it out'. You know without a doubt that he saved you from trying to hold on to someone who isn't worth your time to hold on to. It was a harsh way to do it, though.
Absolutely brutal. Good word, LucreziaBorgia. You're right, no doubts in my mind.
The thing that really sucks is I was finally just starting to be able to let down some barriers around him. Just beginning to trust him. Should've known better...
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Sorry, hadta.
What a grade A weirdo.
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