Lovelady, I am in the same position. I am trying to lose 15 lbs and it's very hard. But I already lost a few. I was looking at skinny girls with no cellulite and remembered that I can look like that too. Look at the mirror and remember how you used to be sexy before.
I also think of all the guys (including mine) who like thin girls and how I once was one of them.
You shouldn't lose weight rapidly, but try to write down little goals, such as "not eat today anything except this and that".
The golden rule for losing weight is - skip dinner and go to bed hungry.
When you feel this terrible hunger, your body is actually losing weight...Think about this when you're hungry. If you skip dinner, you'll wake up thinner tomorrow. If you eat, you will only feel guilty and fat.
Don't throw up (that not only might kill you like it killed Terri) but it also doesn't help in losing weight - medically proven.
And don't use laxatives, it ruins your gastro-system.
When you have to eat, grab veggies, fruits, yogurt, integral rice, and low fat meat. Forget the fatenning stuff. You will eat them occasionally once you lose the 20 lbs.
Whenever you need to eat, ask yourself what's more important to you - to be thin or to eat that piece of cake?
If you're too lazy to exercise, just walk or dance for yourself.