[guitarchick]

Hey everyone! Okay, I was hoping someone could help me out with a problem I have.

Last night, my boyfriend told me he had cheated on me like New Years's Eve, or New Year's. He said he was very drunk, and his cousin's friend went over to him telling him to break up with me. He said he kept telling he "No", and he thought he was dreaming at first when they started kissing. He said they barely got into it, (as in having sex) when he told her he couldn't do it, that he loves me. She said "You love her?", "Why do you love Ashley?" He told me he could've stopped her before they did anything, but he didn't.

I mean, I never even knew she liked him. I never had a problem with her, either. I just don't understand why she had to to that. That is such a cruel thing to do to someone.

Sometime later, in February, both of us had agreed we would never drink again. I never knew he had decided to come up with the idea after this happened. He had told me he would never drink again because his dad made some bad decisions, and because his dad's an alcoholic. My boyfriend told me he never wants that to ever happen again, and said he will never hurt me again. After my boyfriend told me, he wouldn't stop apologizing after that. I forgave him, too.

He and I have been together about a year and a month. He is the love of my life. We both lost our virginity to each other, when we did, and he's my best friend. I just don't know what to do about all of this. If you can help me with this at all, or have had a similar experience, I would GREATLY apprectate it! Thank you so much!!! -Ashley-

[Lucky Dog]

It sounds like she is literaly screwing with your bf. From what you said, if you beleive him, he was almost brain dead. If he has suggested to stop drinking, I think you can take that as a sign that he realises he drinks too much, and is acknowledging his mistakes (both of which take a hell of a lot of courage) so I think I would give him a second chance, but only on the condition that he stay clear away from her, and continue to not drink (but don't give him a threatening ulimtaium or he may run away - just state your 'rules' fro coming back firmly and gently). If he breaks either of these rules (or sleeps with anyoone else) I would drop him like a hot potato!

[guitarchick]

Thanks for the advice, Lucky Dog!

I have decided to give my boyfriend another chance, and so far, everything is going great.

-Ashley-

Hi,
I recently broke up with my boyfriend becasue he cheated on me when he was drunk except he says he dont really remember. We would have been dating for three years. I love him so much and i told him maybe he should think about stop drinking if i'm not around if we start dating again. I know trust will stengthen as time goes on but if i love him that much then i know i should forgive him and move on with him. But forgiving does not mean i will ever forget about it. i dont know what to do? I was thinking of just giving myself some space to heal and to think about stuff, but i really do think we will have another chance together. He just got done telling me that i'm the one and he doesnt care how long it will take him to get me back and do what ever it takes to get me back. He also said he wasnt to marry me one of theses days and hav ea family together.