So my girlfriend and I have been in an LDR for a year and a half now. We hit two years together about a month ago. Starting about Valentine’s day, she started becoming distant, not liking to talk on the phone (she used to love to), talking minimally online, etc. A week before I went home for spring break, she told me that she needed time and space, a break, so she could figure some stuff out. Over break we talked about this a lot, and she said it wasn’t about a guy. Over and over she tells me that this is about her needing to have some space, and make sure that I have all the qualities she wants in a mate, and meet new people. So I get back to school and she begins almost pushing me away, she talks to me only barely, especially compared to the past. She starts hanging out with a new guy, he cousin’s best friend, 4 nights in a row (at least) until all hours of the morning. It just seems like she got over me really quickly. I talked to a bunch of people and they all agree. So now, I’m like, hrmm, WTF, if we’re on, then lets do this, if we’re not, then tell me. So today I talked to her for an hour, and she continues to re-iterate, this is not about a guy, this about finding myself, and finding out if you’re the right guy for me. I’m thinking, 1) lets fix the problems together, lets grow together, 2) how will you find out about my qualities with other men, work with me, and watch us grow together. I just feel like nothing I do matters, I have no problem giving her the space she desires, but its like damnit, I can do that and still be your boyfriend. Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water, you know?

[fatalist]

sounds to me like a bunch lies...you should do yourself a favor and leave now, tell her to come back in later days when she is certain.