[ruthieo]

Ok here's my problem -
My Fiance and me are getting married in June or July. I want to have a small family wedding and a big reception. He wants to run off and get married. Things between him and his parents are very bad and the closer the wedding comes the worse they get. He wants to run off and get married so that we don't have to deal with his parents anymore ( We would be able to get married in june) . I want to have a wedding becasue I want to be able to do the whole girlie things. He said that there is no way we can get married in June because it is too sone to have a wedding and we would have to wait till July. I told him what I wanted and now his thinks that I don't care that he is going thru a mess with his parents. When he asked me what I wanted. And he said That it doen't matter to him what we do just to tell him what to do and where to go. I don't know what to do. I called him and told him that I did care and that we could work it out to where we could have the best of both worlds. But he won't listen to me. I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any advice? I almost feel like he is going to say that he just wants to forget the whole thing. Things are just EXTREMLY stressful, and I need advice. PLEASE HELP ME Does anyone have thing to help me get thru this. I have always been scared that he is just going to up and leave me. But He has told me he would never leave me. I just have a fear of that. I don't wnat this to ruin everything. HELP ME!!!

[Merin]

Don't get into a marriage with the idea that your SO will eventually leave you.


While I can understand both points here, I do think that some Women do forget that the Wedding/Marriage isn't (and shouldn't be) all about them ONLY.

Obviously your Fiancee' is having some serious issues with his family and there really can be a lot of pressure and high expectations of what some people feel a Wedding *should be* However.. keep in mind that an amazing wedding isn't going to make the Marriage any more or any less amazing, it's about the 2 people who have made the decision and choice to spend thier lives together.

COMPROMISE.. this is going to be something that will be needed often in any marriage.
So with that said.. is it possible for the 2 of you to run off and get married and return for a reception with family and friends to celebrate the marriage?