When is it time to end things?

RoxStar · 21st March 2005, 5:43 PM

How do you know when its time to end it?

I just think I am getting to a point in my relationship that I need to end it. I am not used to being in this position at all. I am worried I might regret it once I tell him but this has been coming for about a month now. I posted about this awhile back and I just waited to see if things would be better or if things would change and its the same. I tried to talk to him but he doesnt like talking about stuff and he usually finds a way to avoid things. Anyway...

How do you know when its time?

EC · 21st March 2005, 5:46 PM

You just know.

I just broke up with my bf (well took a break) yesterday and it was one of the hardest things to do.

I actually heard a song and realized thats it this is what I have to do. I mean it hit me finally like a ton of bricks..but that was me?

If your not happy, and you've tried and nothing has changed, and you KNOW its not going anywhere then you just have to do it.

RoxStar · 21st March 2005, 5:51 PM

THANKS EC. I did just browse and I saw your post. I just dont know if its the right thing or not. I am worried I will regret it and then it will be too late.

EC · 21st March 2005, 5:53 PM

Sista we are on the same boat.

But one thing I learned is that you cannot settle u know? If your not happy then your not happy. I was going to suggest you talk to him first but you have done that and nothing has changed?

Your scared to regret what? That you let a great guy go? Or are you scared of being alone?

Sometimes you just have to take a risk.

RoxStar · 21st March 2005, 5:58 PM

I am worried I am making more of the issues I have then are warranted. I know that doesnt make sense. I have a tendency to really blow things out of proportion sometimes and I dont think that I am doing that now. I am not totally unhappy and I could probably be happier but I just dont know.

alphamale · 21st March 2005, 6:13 PM

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Originally posted by RoxStar
How do you know when its time to end it?

easy answer ROXSTAR. It is time to end it when you are not getting back from the relationship what you are putting into it. It is called the equity theory of interpersonal relationships and is very well documented in psych texts.