[l2hvn]

i've been seeing this great guy for almost 3 mos now. things began slowly (as i wanted it to be) but has been picking up as of late.

the problem is, he doesn't know i still live at home. i'm actually embarrassed by that fact and don't want to tell him. several times he offered to pick me up or come over to my place and i kept telling him that i either meet him at the place or his place.

i live at home for a couple of reasons: financially, i'm still recuperating from the credit card debts i've incurred the last couple of years (paying for my student loans, car, etc.), so in short, i'm broke and saving my money up again... and also that my dad became really sick. and i'm also helping my parents out..

i don't know how to tell him this and frankly, i'm really embarrased about the situation. i know i shouldn't be. but i guess it's my whole pride thing..


also, from where i came from, our culture actually encourage us to live at home until you get married.

[alphamale]

just tell him exactly what you wrote above but do it quickly. if he really likes you then it won't be an issue.

tell him the next time you see him. everything you wrote.

quickly. immediately. directly. it's important that you tell him about your culture too. he needs to know where you come from and what you come from.

[laRubiaBonita]

it IS a deal breaker if you are making loads of money and mooching off your folks at age 35...... to me.

how old are the two of you?

[Hund1976]

It shouldn't be a deal breaker, tell him all your reasons. Most likely he'll be cool with it. If not then he's not a very understanding guy anyway.