[Emilye22]

I've been dating the same guy for two years now. I love him to death and would do anything for him. He loves me too, that I know and don't doubt, but I'm worried. His ex-wife did a real number on him and he's become very cynical about marriage. I'm 27 and he's 30. We both have kids, me with two and him with three. Our kids all get along and both sides of the kids respect the other's partner.

I've brought up marriage because he's it, I know he is. He tells me he doesn't want to be without me and my feelings are mutual. I recently got a bug up my butt and decided to propose to him. He did accept the proposal, but at the same time, he won't discuss anything further with me regarding it. He's currently in the military reserves and also a full-time student trying to finish his undergrad and then wants to proceed to law school. I'm very encouraging and supportive of it and he knows this. He doesn't want to get married until he's finished his undergrad, which will be in 2007. I also accept this. But what I'm having a hard time accepting is that he won't set at least a prospective date with me so that I can at least start planning things. I told him that he doesn't have to do anything and if he could at least settle on a prospective date, I would take care of the planning part(s) of it and he wouldn't have anything to worry about. He's okay with me planning the wedding.

Am I being too obsessive about wanting to get married? How do I get him to discuss it with me without pissing him off and sending him through the roof? Does anyone have any advice?