what's the one thing that can make a guy run for the hills? i have been single for a while now (been playing the field) and i think i'm ready to settle down... however, it seems like the guys i was interested in seem to run away at the first sign of my "breaking down my walls." so, i feel scared to open up again and get hurt again....
but what is it that a woman do that just scares men away???? any thoughts???
If he reaches under your skirt and finds a cucumber.
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The male brain is more compartmentalized than the female brain. Men can seperate things whereas women have a harder time cause their brains are all wired together in some inter-connected mish-mosh.
oh and talking about any type of monogamous "commitment" before the six month mark.
one last one...when you take her out for your first fancy-schmancy dinner and she orders the most expensive item on the menu and downs 4 glasses of expensive red wine.
Too touchy-feely, long glances and stares with the love in the eyes, (too intense-will freak him out- same goes the other way around too if men do it to women) talking too much about how they feel when they are together. And ofcourse the I love you waaaaayyyy too soon will put him off and he'll head for the hills.
Jealously and asking too much of him, expecting alot.
When opening up would reveal to the guy you are a way different person, than he had imagined you to be.
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Originally posted by alphamale
oh and talking about any type of monogamous "commitment" before the six month mark.
I've been with my man for just over 6 months (as of 2/22/05). We are committed. We felt committed to each other around the 4 month mark.I think that's generalizing what u stated above. It all depends on how you feel in the relationship. (But alas, we are all entitled to our opinions!)
I grabbed a quote from a previous post here that I believe is true:
Originally posted by emotionsmessmeup
if a man wants to be with u, nothing will stop him..
if he doesnt wanna be with u, nothing will convince him.
I don't give a relationship ANY time restraints of when to feel something, when to "open up"...etc..etc. To me, if the relationship is on an even flow with both parties, then I say GO FOR IT. Enjoy it. U only live once.
Originally posted by Butterfly28
I've been with my man for just over 6 months (as of 2/22/05). We are committed. We felt committed to each other around the 4 month mark.I think that's generalizing what u stated above. It all depends on how you feel in the relationship. (But alas, we are all entitled to our opinions!)
well, BUTTERFLY28, the six month mark is my own personal rule. but for many it is 3 or 4 months and that is fine. but i think the minimum should be 3 months in any situation. it takes at least 3 months to learn enuf about the other person to even make the decision on any type of commitment like go or no go.
Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd
Point blank - If ya like the guy and the guy likes ya then I dont think you can do anything to scare him away and vice-versa.
i agree with this to a certain extent also. if someone is predisposed to liking you intensely you get much more leeway. actually you can treat 'em like shyt and they'll still like you.
i am an expert at keeping men interested
you have to first of all make them start guessing, do you really like them or not, you know like dont go out of your way to talk to them but then give them a sexy smile be bold tho, or stare at them but look down demurely when they look at you
do ALL of these things, be mysterious, NEVER tell them you like them, get them so hot they chase you and then act surprised, play a little hard to get
when it starts happening just go with it, dont ever make any demands, be yourself but dont ever tell them what your feelings are, dont be cold though, be nice
you can say small clues about how you feel but dont lay it on thick, always keep them guessin
most of all, have fun with it!
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