[TylerC]

I'm trying not to be clingy, because I know it's bad. However, I don't really know what clingy means.

Can anyone define it for me and give me some advice on how to not be clingy?

[Sckott]

Clingy means reaching out often without any physical/emotional or verbal cues that it's reciprocated.

I'm with a chick and I tap her on her knee when I'm laughing.
I look and stare at her when she's not looking
I kiss her when she's not really expected, and she doesn't reciprocate.
...and I want more, do more, desire more.

Love is a two way street. You can be affectionate "being yourself" but if the girl doesn't recieve it right, it can be percieved as "CLINGY" which is a double-whammy. Because when she's not into you and you want "MORE", it turns her off all the more.

She has to be into you. If she's not, don't push. Make a simple communication, your actions or words. It's like a telephone call. If she's not answering, don't call.

It's about too much information too soon. Hope that helped?

[Merin]

Clingy~

The guy/girl who

1) Calls constantly
2) Monopolizes all of thier SO's time
3) Needs to know the 411 and I mean all of the 411 of what thier SO is doing
4) Tries to make thier SO feel guilty if they aren't available to them *right then*
5) Insists on coming along to every and all events
6) Has a death grip on thier SO.. nothing wrong with kissing and what not.. but for real.. when you've got a runny nose, your coughing up a lung, you've got PMS LOL or whatever.. get the hell off me!
7) Has no outside friends or interest besides thier SO
8) Asking what are you doing when you call them.. (that part is okay) but calling back in 10 minutes and saying "how about now?" uh.. not so good

I once had a guy who was so gdamn clingy he practically sat on my lap every time we were sitting down.. but I had to draw the line when he followed me to the bathroom.. WTF! I came out of the ladies room and no sh*t he said to me "I missed you" ooohhhhhhh hell no, check please!

LMAO! Hope this helped.. if not, it made me laugh

[TylerC]

Can you give me some advice if I tell you which ones I have problems with?

1) Not really, the calling is pretty even as to who calls who.

2) Eh, sort of, she and I spend more time with each other than our friends but it's not like we don't go out with friends.

3) I like to know what she's doing, but it's usually just to make conversation and I don't freak out if I don't know.

4) Eh, sort of, if we haven't done something for a while and she blows me off again I'll try to make her feel guilty, but other than that, not really.

5) I come to them because I know she likes to know that I'm there and she said it makes her feel special.

6) I know when to touch and when not to touch, no problem at all here.

7) Definitely not true, I hang out with my friends.

8) I do ask what she's doing, but again, to make conversation, and I have never called back 10 minutes later to ask the same question.

Now, my girlfriend says I'm clingy, so judging from MY opinion on the matter, can I get some advice?

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally posted by TylerC
Now, my girlfriend says I'm clingy, so judging from MY opinion on the matter, can I get some advice?

Hmmm, not to worry you, but this was my first sign that ReluctantJuliette was reconsidering "us". I'd back off a little.

My definition of "clingy"? Quoting a sad song about her in your signature, even after she has left

[_Saffy_]

Romeo......

[Merin]

Originally posted by TylerC
Can you give me some advice if I tell you which ones I have problems with?

1) Not really, the calling is pretty even as to who calls who.

2) Eh, sort of, she and I spend more time with each other than our friends but it's not like we don't go out with friends.

3) I like to know what she's doing, but it's usually just to make conversation and I don't freak out if I don't know.

4) Eh, sort of, if we haven't done something for a while and she blows me off again I'll try to make her feel guilty, but other than that, not really.

5) I come to them because I know she likes to know that I'm there and she said it makes her feel special.

6) I know when to touch and when not to touch, no problem at all here.

7) Definitely not true, I hang out with my friends.

8) I do ask what she's doing, but again, to make conversation, and I have never called back 10 minutes later to ask the same question.

Now, my girlfriend says I'm clingy, so judging from MY opinion on the matter, can I get some advice?

Tyler.. this is the same Girl who told you that maybe she was going to make you wait a few months before having sex with you again?

Honestly.. I agree with Romeo.. when someone starts saying things like this to you (and especially when you really feel it isn't warranted) it could be a sign she is stepping back..

From what you've described.. I don't think you're being clingy.. with the exception of the making her feel guily bit.. because for real, nobody likes that ya know? BUT I do think thats the *excuse* she's looking at to possibly step back here..

You're a sweetheart Tyler.. take a step back here yourself and really think if this is what you want, or if this is really worth fighting for...

Good Luck

[emotionsmessmeup]

I am clingy

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally posted by emotionsmessmeup
I am clingy

Sweetie, you are the *gold standard* of clingy. And we love you for it, even if he doesn't.

[emotionsmessmeup]

gold standard..
why wud anyone luv a clingy person now

[alphamale]

well TYLERC, now that you know what "clingy" is i will give u some more advice.

with women, the less clingy you are the better. aloof is good. in other words, make yourself scarce but not totally unavailable.

[emotionsmessmeup]

why is that

[alphamale]

Originally posted by emotionsmessmeup
why is that

cause a secure, independent and confident man needs his woman around less

and also cause the less the supply the more the demand. or, in other words, the more scarce something is the higher its percieved value.

[emotionsmessmeup]

a secure, independent and confident man needs his woman around less?

dont secure, independent and confident men get married?

[Pocky]

Yes, why is that, Speed Racer? I dated a guy for a few months that decided to play "aloof." I dumped him two weeks later.