[scared shy]

Question for any guys out there??

I have often heard that males only keep friends that are girls around if they are attracted in some way...
of course there is always exceptions to the rules, but here is the problem, I have this guy friend I have known for 6 years or so, we met and I instantly liked him, you know when you just look over and are like "yeah, ok"

So we "saw" eachother or what have you, he slowed it down and said things were moving too fast, fine, we worked together at the time so we often ran into eachother, occasionally hanging out after the talk. I left the job and figured I wouldn't see him again.

Well over the years we have ran into eachother often, always picking up where we left off, (never had sex, but fooled around and came very close). So this last time after not speaking for over a year, I finally decided to move on for awhile and dated someone else, that went sour after about a year. So after 6 months or so after my break up I ran into this friend of mine (we have some of the same close friends). It was quite akward at first but gradually we started to hang out again, and wouldn't you know it all those feelings come rushing back...

He flirts a little and I guess I do when I let my gaurd down, I try not to though cause I feel he really has the potential to hurt me badly, yes those are my own personal demons.

Now the tangled web gets more tangled, he is moving in with a good friend of mine, no nothing is going on between these two, although they do talk about our non-relationship with eachother, which does bother me a little. I am too scared to find out how he feels myself, and I certainly do not want someone else to do the dirty work.

Most of my girlfriends say I should just jump him, and maybe I would if I knew for sure he cared liked that... I have texted messaged him that i care for him lots blah blah blah when I have had some serious liquid courage going on, but I have never told him how I felt face to face sober... he has told me he loves me, again drunk. Sometimes it seems though if I don't make the initial contact then he doesn't, or let me put it this way, I call him more than he does me.


So question, would this guy keep hanging around me and move in with my good friend (he has to be aware I am over there a lot) and he is simply my friend, or is there a chance of maybe more and i should just suck it up and tell him, or is this guy playing head games. Let me finish by saying he did tell my friend, his new roommate, that he was really pissed off when I go together with my now ex. Is this just an ego thing that most all guys seem to harbor?

I do apologize for one being so crazy and for such a long post. I am hoping someone can shed some un-biased light on this, it helps to hear things from strangers