[b52srock]

Surprise, surprise! Guess who went out with friends last night?! And guess who was there!

Yep, the wh*re was there and the STBex high-tailed it out of the club, through the back door I might add, as soon as he saw me come in!

I made no bones about having some fun, even though it was a little uncomfortable, and it only took 15 minutes before the wh*re went flying through the front door! She couldn't take it!!!!

So, waited about 2 hours, and no, I wasn't drunk, went home, packed his sh*t out of his closet and took it over and dumped it all on his doorstep in the middle of the night. Topped it off with his 3 fire helmets!

I'm presently packing the rest of his crap and will put it in the yard, call him, and tell him to come get it.

God I feel good today!!!

[Yikes]

That WAS quite a night.

Good for you.

[b52srock]

Oh this just keeps getting better!

Went to a taco place for lunch today and while I was waiting in line, lo and behold, in walks the wh*re's ex husband! I'd been tempted to call him and talk with him about what he knew, why they split, etc., but just hadn't had the nerve to yet.

So, when he spoke to me I told him I thought we should get together for coffee one of these days. When he asked why and I told him to talk about my pending divorce you could have heard a pin drop! He says he was told this affair has actually been going on for 5 years! (They've been divorced for 2) He also told me that she had previously hated to go on the business trips, but when my husband started working there she all of a sudden wouldn't miss a trip!

Let him know she'll be subponead (sp?) if the divorce goes to trial and I plan on dragging her name through the mud. He told me to go for it...that she hurt him so bad it was nearly unbearable. Told him I knew exactly where he was coming from. And that once I got through with the STBex he wouldn't have a dime to his name so no more fun and games for him and the wh*re.

Like I said, something has finally broken and I'm taking control of my life and my emotions. Feels good to laugh, to be out in public again. Been a year where I've been a virtual prisoner in my own home. Not anymore!!!!

[b52srock]

I must have scared the crap out of him when I packed the rest of his things on Sunday. He came over, got everything and left. I had taken my daughter out of the house at the time so she wouldn't have to see daddy taking his things to his apartment.

So....this morning he shows up for his usual "15 minutes before school" (why bother?) and says, "I suppose you noticed the garage door". Well, I hadn't, actually. Apparently after I left to get my daughter he backed his truck up into the garage to load his stuff...left the tailgate down and the window to the topper up...and slammed into the garage door! Bent the crap out of it, knocked the glass out of the topper....

Sorry, shouldn't laugh, but I find it absolutely hilarious that actually having to move his things out of the house affected him so much. I know, I know, it was an accident, but I accidentally hit the garage door 10 years ago, knocked a chunk out of the isulation inside the door about the size of a pop can and have had to listen to him gripe about how stupid it was at least 4-5 times a year!

Now who's the stupid one?

[Kat]

wow you are a bitter woman. You are spending a lot of time on revenge, why not spend time rebuilding your life and healing?

[b52srock]

Kat...
At this point I feel I have a right to be a little bitter. And to get a little revenge.

You see, I've spent the last year, since he moved out of our home, doing everything from asking him to please go with me to counselling (he went twice, didn't like what he was hearing about himself and refused to go back), to inviting him to have dinner with the children and myself (at home, where I fixed his favorite meals), to confining myself to the house, making myself a virtual prisoner, just so there would be no chance of any rumors starting that might hurt the marriage I was trying to save.

And what did it get me? All that patience? It got me absolutely nothing but heartache.

I don't spend all my time seeking revenge. Actually, I don't have to say much to anyonce since everyone in town except me has known what was going on behind my back for nearly two years. I don't have the time to exact any revenge. I'm too busy working at a new job, taking care of my two children, paying bills, taking care of the house, etc., to put any real effort into revenge.

But I'm going to enjoy the little things that happen. I'll happily enjoy making their lives miserable if I happen to have the chance. Not that I go looking for those chances, but when they fall into my lap I'm certainly going to have a knowing smile on my face.

Bitter? I have the right to be.

[Kat]

Originally posted by b52srock
Kat...
At this point I feel I have a right to be a little bitter. And to get a little revenge.

Bitter? I have the right to be.

Why? So you can be just as bad as him? So you can resort to his level? Why make your life more complicated that he has already made it?

It doesn't make you feel any better. You will never get justice and that is the painful thing about it. I know you can't understand what I am saying, but by walking away and leaving him in the past is the best and only justice you will ever get.

Don't stand up and fight to be right, don't go out of your way to make sure everyone knows that you were hard done by, because at the end of the day no one has to live with your pain but you. Why give away more of your live to this man who has done nothing but suck life out of you?

I am probably explaining it all wrong, but your actions are that of a 15 year old. I thought you were a woman? Why is it so important that everyone knows what he did to you? What pain he caused?

The healing has to happen outside, no matter how many people who give you sympathy, it won't speed up the process until you release your anger and leave him behind