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Does anybody think that setting out to WIN back the one you love is a realistic proposition
Yes
or is it only ever a way to prolong the pain
Yes
Which one? Depends on how it turns out.
Does showing that you love someone really work
Rarely, most likely, they already know.
or does it only ever annoy them and make the situation worse
Usually.
Can the fire be re-lit after it has started to die
Be honest with yourself. Has it started to die? You're still together then? Then yes you have a chance.
If you aren't still together, it might not have started to die, it might have been deliberately snuffed.
or is it best to walk, even if you really love them, and by so doing have scared them away
If that is the case, then backing off would be the right thing, no?
Have you made your position clear already?
Back off and try a little "no contact" for a couple weeks and see if you get a call.
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And they say that he got crazy once and he tried to touch the sun - And he lost a friend but kept his memory
LIC is right. Give it sometime with the no contact and see what happens... If theres something there itll end up happening... If not the its not ment to be......
Yes i have made my position very clear to her, did no contact for three weeks, then broke it, and now its been a further two weeks, i seem to be ok for the first couple of weeks but around about the third i get panicky, and feel like contacting her,
I hate NC but i have no choice, i was thinking about some grand gesture, but probably not a good idea, im just clutching at straws now, lack of sleep is getting to me and making me think wacky ideas, have even considered a love spell, DUHHHHH
Aint love wonderful, but jeees it kicks like a horse, Thanks guys
Yes love has a wierd way of doin things to ya.... hehehe.....
All you can do is just be friends, and go from there, if you can push it toward somethng more Great! IF not then it wont be, not matter how hard you try.
If the other is not wanting to play ball, then your out.... Sorry but then its time to kick it to the curb and move on. And yes it sucks, but life is not over, and the next will be that much better, cause you have learned from this situation....
Earlier on i checked the last caller on my phone, something i have not done for a while and suprise suprise a phone call last night at 12.20 and the caller left no number (number witheld) it was her i know it, she has done this before, no one else would phone me at that time, and withold their number, suddenly i feel back in the driving seat,
I had hoped that this would happen cause now i know that im on her mind, not sure what will come of it but at least it has fed my spirit and im feeling more upbeat about things,
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