[Right or Wrong]

Hi all,

This is my first post so be gentle.

What it is, there's this girl that's a friend of my sister, she's 16, i often take her mum places as her mum don't drive, anyway the other day i was taking her mum to the shops, and this girl was sitting in the back, when all of a sudden she said to her mum, me and &&&& are getting married, this was the 1st i heard of it, but went along with the joke and said i'd marry you tomorrow. when we arrived at the shops this girl went as well, when she came back she bought me a valentines card & a small box of chocs and asked for a kiss on the cheek.

Anyway, i've always thought she's beautiful, and now i'm starting to have feelings for her, here's the problem, i'm a couple of years short of being double her age.

My sister and her mum said that she's starting to get a crush on me as she was resting her head on my shoulder the other night round my sisters, and she always says bye darling love you.

Today i was round my sisters when she popped in and said you still marrying me, i said yeah of course, are you still marrying me, she said no, but weren't sure if she was saying no to me or to my sister as she was talking to her as well, but this is really doing my head in.

What would be your thoughts on this, do you think she has got a crush or is this normal 16yr old behaviour??

[LucreziaBorgia]

Normal 16 year old behavior. She's crushing on you - and its dangerous territory because sixteen year olds are very capable of exerting a sexuality and desire that they may not have the emotional maturity to control yet. On one level she may be attracted to her perceptions of you as an "older guy", she may be attracted physically, it could be the "taboo" factor - but she will probably not be entirely able to reconcile those attractions with her ability to function in an adult emotional relationship. My advice? Steer clear. Right now your perceptions of the possibilities with this girl are probably very far off from reality. I don't know how you'd make something work out of this. A girl that age and a man your age are at two entirely different stages of emotional maturity.