Ok, so I've been emaling back n forth with this new woman for past 3 wks. This was a hook up thru a mutual friend so we have not met but exchanged pics. The is cute, blonde/blue with a smokin' bod, woo hoo!
Here is the problem. She is a jazz singer and will be playing at a bar in Detroit tonite from 8pm - 11pm and I'm supposed to meet her and chat during her breaks.
The main issue is that this is a GAY bar she is playing at, not that there is anything wrong with being gay. But I have never been to one before and don't know what to do and am a bit nervous.
It's not that I can't handle it, I can, but it is just something new and I don't know what to expect.
In my experience, gay guys usually know you're straight without needing to ask. And since they're more used to interacting with our world than we with theirs, they'll probably work around you fine in the bar. You may even have some fun chats while you're waiting for your belle.
And you are in the ideal situation vis-à-vis your lady - no competition in the house!
I've never gone to a gay bar so I wouldn't know what to expect either. What is it you're worried about? Being hit on, or just the general feel of the place and what you could see?
I'm sure once you're there watching her sing and you get afew drinks in - You'll feel more comfortable. And then once you talk to her during the breaks it will get easier as the night goes on.
I hope you have a good time and looking forward to reading about your evening sometime!
Originally posted by tiki
Go, relax, and have a good time. Look as straight as possible. No worries.
i don't think i'll ever be mistaken for being gay (not that there is anythin wrong w/ that).
but once i get there i'll be thinkin' "am i lookin' straight enuf" or "OMG, should I have made that hand movement" or "Ahhh, that dude's makin' eye contact".
as long as i dont' have to conciously think about "lookin straight" there is no problem but what happens when you have to think about it? doesn't that ***k everythin up?
I've been to a gay bar once....but it was heterosexual night ...it was really....so it just seemed like a regular club scene...with more gay/les styles abound. I was actualy nervous too....but really, they will know you are not gay.....just go find a seat, grab a drink....and wathc the show.
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Originally posted by whichwayisup
I've never gone to a gay bar so I wouldn't know what to expect either. What is it you're worried about? Being hit on, or just the general feel of the place and what you could see?
both i guess... most gay men leave straight men alone but some love to sort of harass you in a joking sort of way to get a rise out of you and see your reaction.
a number of yrs ago i used to work with a gay guy who knew i was straight but he kept pestering me to go out for a drink or dinner or hang out with him. always saying i'm cute in front of others. it used to sorta piss me off but he was like doing it half joking/half serious. that year long fiasco comes to mind.
Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo
In my experience, gay guys usually know you're straight without needing to ask.
How do they know this RR??? I mean, I have met guys who I later found out were gay that looked totally straight. You would never ever guess they were gay from outward appearances.
Do they have some type of "strai-dar"? Like a little gadget with a green screen and blips on it to identify friend or foe?
a number of yrs ago i used to work with a gay guy who knew i was straight but he kept pestering me to go out for a drink or dinner or hang out with him. always saying i'm cute in front of others. it used to sorta piss me off but he was like doing it half joking/half serious. that year long fiasco comes to mind.
Gay or straight - that guy is a real *********. If he'd done that to a woman who wasn't 'into' him, he'd be probably charged with harrassment or had a "talking to" by the boss... Anyway I'm gonna stop cuz that's a whole can of worms I'm not gonna open on your thread...
Seems to me I read an article a few years ago where they were developing "gaydar". It was like a pager type device that went off when in a certain proximity to another gaydar device. The idea was the other guy who started looking around was carrying the gaydar.
I'm sorry Alpha, but this is just too funny.
Of all the people to have to meet his date in a gay bar......
I'm sorry
But if you don't want to get hit on by the guys, go dressed as a woman.
Sorry, I couldn't resist.
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