Alright, my girlfriend of 4 months and I haven't done anything past making out in 2 weeks. I'm not saying this is a bad thing, because like she said, it's not all about that, but I do think there should be a balance. 2 weeks ago she gave me head, and less than a week before she gave me head for the first time. I haven't gotten a handy or anything since.
She was used by her previous boyfriend and she said she knows I'm not using her, which is good, because I'm not.
Today I was at her house and she said "man it's awesome that we haven't done anything in 2 weeks." I asked why it was awesome and she replied, "it just is, because it's not about that." I said yeah I guess, and then she said "and we won't for another month." I wasn't sure if she was kidding or not, so I said "ok..." because I didn't want to make her mad and say "no." She asked if when she said that I thought "oh man this sucks." She and I are totally honest with each other, so I said "at first I did think boo, but then I was like whatever."
She could be testing me, or she could be serious, I don't know. I haven't really tried initiating anything that much, so maybe I should do that?
I really need some advice here, I know we don't have to do something every time we're together, but 6 weeks is a little long in my opinon. I don't know how to go about talking to her because I'm afraid if I say anything she will do one or a combination of the following:
Oh my goodness. Please let this game playing chica go. She's holding out, for no reason whatsoever. And if other 16 yr old girls would like, totally not go out with you over this, then you don't need those other girls.
She can stop playing her game or she can not have a boyfriend.
I wish I would have known that men have to actually be told to let a game player go. I'd have started playing them long ago. C'mon, you know the answer to this question.
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That'd be good....except she would blackball me from every girl in the grade.
I don't want to break up with her, but I'm 90% sure she was kidding when she said the thing about another month.
Let's just say for the sake of arguement that she WASN'T kidding when she said there wasn't going to be anything going on for a month.. you okay with that?
I dunno Tyler.. IMO trying to control like that just isn't cool and it isn't okay.. I think it's un-set when people use sex as a tool (if you will ha!) to get what they want, OR to *reward* or *punish*
It could be that she is just young and isn't really sure of herself and what she's okay with.. but honestly Tyler.. if she is using this angle now to see what kind of a reaction she's going to get OR as a way to control the relationship.. then I'd get out now.
Yeah, I guess I'd be okay with not doing anything for another month. I mean, I can do it myself, it just feels a lot better when she does it, because I can't fellate myself =P
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Yeah, I guess I'd be okay with not doing anything for another month. I mean, I can do it myself, it just feels a lot better when she does it, because I can't fellate myself =P
Originally posted by TylerC
Yeah, I guess I'd be okay with not doing anything for another month. I mean, I can do it myself, it just feels a lot better when she does it, because I can't fellate myself =P
Maybe she doesn't feel as though she is getting the same pleasure from these sexual interactions as you are. Perhaps she thinks you should be more interested in trying to please her . She's only 16, she may not be able to communicate that to you. Talk to her and tell her you want to please her as much as she pleasures you.
I do please her, I finger her, and probably more often than I get a handy/head. I want to eat her out, but she said she's not ready and I can respect that.
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