i have lived with my boyfriend for almost 7 yrs.When we first got together, our sexual relationship was wonderful and left nothing to be desired. Gradually over the years, it has gone downhill. I am in my early 40's and he is only 39. Now, I'm lucky if it's once a month. when it does happen,it only lasts for maybe 10 minutes. I'm so frustrated and confused. when i bring the topic up to him, he says i criticize him and why would he want to do it any way. I really have no one else to talk to. I am at my witts end with this subject. He wants to get married, also. I absolutely refuse to let that happen with the way things are now. I can only imagine how much worse things would get. I often fantasize and dream about being with a complete stranger, so that I can have fulfilling sex. I flirt with with my male co-workers daily, because it makes me feel desirable and wanted. I don't know how much longer i can go on this way. I think about cheating, but i know i would feel so terrible inside, plus, i can't lie. I love this man so much, but it hurts me so much, and i don't feel desirable and beautiful. I want to be with him forever, but i feel trapped. please help

[P1xie]

Do you criticize him?

[Hund1976]

I would tell him that you love him and want to be with him but then explain how you need to work something out with the sex situation. If he refuses to talk about it then there is really nothing you can do. But if you get to the point where you're going to cheat on him please just break up with him instead. At that point your relationship is basically over anyway.

[lynnered]

have you tried new stuff ?dress up(school girl &nurse are popular) ,maybe watch porn together ,dirty talk on his way to work.
my x loved i put so much into our sex life i totally catered to him !!
except his 2 girl fantasy!!lol
but anything 1 on 1 ,we tried and we had soooo much fun he would get hard talking to me on the phone not even being sexual, make him want you ,massage him ,&make it a priority ,there's a book i haven't got yet but its called how to make love like a porn star (by some porn star).
good luck o &dont cheat break up before you start dealing w/h others!!