Why are there so many games played by both Men and Women in the dating game ?
If u both like eachother why not just tell eachother? And if u dont just tell them ! Why play games !! ???
Im venting a little here cause this has happened more than once. Went out with a girl I have known last week. The Date was one of the BEST first dates I have ever been on. Really got to know eachother and really connected - we had a lot in common ! So I asked her out again for this upcoming Sat night 2 days after our first date. She accepted and was happy I asked her out again. So I called her yesterday to let her know what time I would pick her up and stuff. Got her voicemail, so left a message for her to call me back when she gets a chance. Well Im still waiting for the call. Now most guys would start freaking out and keep on calling, but I know that girls dont like to call back right away cause it makes them look desperate. So im planning not to call her back until Thursday.
Why dont women call back right away ? Do they think its funny making us guys squirm around ? Obviously when a women doesnt call back guys start to get all the negative thoughts running thru their heads ! Just lookin for some help !
Is the girl who you sent the flowers to after date one?
I think the answer is posted frequently -- people (women and men both) are afraid of confrontation. They're afraid of hurting others. They're too immature to be real. Etc. Some are just mean.
Why dont women call back right away ? Do they think its funny making us guys squirm around ? Obviously when a women doesnt call back guys start to get all the negative thoughts running thru their heads ! Just lookin for some help !
You answered your own question below...
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but I know that girls dont like to call back right away cause it makes them look desperate. So im planning not to call her back until Thursday.
Women feel the same way when men say they will call and don't. Women feel the same way after having sex with someone they like and then the guy doeesn't call the next day....
There is a girl I have a huge crush on and she kept promising to call me back and she never did. Then she waits till the last day before she goes back to school to tell me how she feels.
I did read ur post. No disrespect but I think my problem is a little different than urs. I have known this girl for a few yrs. I ahve already gone out with her for our first date. I already have a 2nd date set-up with her. I m just wondering why ladies dont call guys back in a reasonable amount of time, its like a BIG game or something !
she could be playing games...playing hard to get because she heard it was a good idea (bad idea in my opinion)
maybe she is trying to let you down
maybe has been extremely busy
maybe she is shy and trying to come up with excuses
maybe something bad has happened to her
there are so many possibilities.... I think that you should call her ONE more time and that is it. If she picks up the phone, don't mention the date, just talk to her for a couple of minutes and listen to her voice to find out whether or not she is still interested in you. Don't ask to find out about the date.
If she doesn't pick up the phone and you get her voice mail, let her know that you are canceling the date because something has come up. If she cares enough, she will call you back to find out why. Let her down before she does that to you.
I think that there is so much time from the time you asked her out to the date that she doesnt feel she has to contact you until right before the date.
If she wanted to let me down, why would she say yes to the 2nd date in the first place ?
Its just worse cause we have known eachother for a few yrs and I finally asked her out and we had a great time. Had so much in common and it was a great 1st date !!! Sent her flowers the next day just to say that I had a great time. She didnt call back then either ! But when I got to the sports bar 2 days later, she couldnt wait to come over and thank me for them and tell me how beautiful they were ! Then the rest of the night was spent flirting ! Next day I called her to set up 2nd date....she said yes hse would like to out again.
So Im just thinkin if she really didnt have any interest in me she wouldnt be doing any of that and she would of said thanks but no thanks ....dont u think ?
She could still like you a lot and say yes to a date yet not want to go out--due to fear. It seems to me, from what you have posted, she is trying to play it cool because she really likes you, and she is scared. It seems as if she is trying to follow a certain behavior so that she appears cool and calm. Perhaps in a previous relationship, she would call the guy back immediately, show too much emotion, etc. Now she wants to make sure that things are in her control so that she doesn't loose control.
Originally posted by daboyz
Thanks for all ur posts !
Fundamental :
If she wanted to let me down, why would she say yes to the 2nd date in the first place ?
So Im just thinkin if she really didnt have any interest in me she wouldnt be doing any of that and she would of said thanks but no thanks ....dont u think ?
Women can be sneaky...they will never tell you the truth, yet they expect the truth from you 100% of the time.
Originally posted by fundamental
Women can be sneaky...they will never tell you the truth, yet they expect the truth from you 100% of the time.
Yeah FUNDAMENTAL....when i wuz growin' up my ma always used to say watch out when dealing with gurlz cause they are ruthless and selfish. This is coming from a grown woman. Maybe she was trying to protect her little boys but I don't think she wuz kidding.
Originally posted by fundamental
Women can be sneaky...they will never tell you the truth, yet they expect the truth from you 100% of the time.
True. Just like the girl I have the hots for. Alot of times like in my case maybe they dont want to hurt your feelings so they hope that you will forget about it or take the hint.
Just like fundamental said from what I have said about this girl, there is noway she is trying to "let me down" or "break it off"
I know im not the greatest man alive, but i do know when a girl is interested in me. I would be very very surprised if this girl is trying to let me off easy.
We have had to much fun together and have gotten along well for that to happen at this point !
Originally posted by alphamale
Yeah FUNDAMENTAL....when i wuz growin' up my ma always used to say watch out when dealing with gurlz cause they are ruthless and selfish. This is coming from a grown woman. Maybe she was trying to protect her little boys but I don't think she wuz kidding.
Originally posted by daboyz
Just like fundamental said from what I have said about this girl, there is noway she is trying to "let me down" or "break it off"
I know im not the greatest man alive, but i do know when a girl is interested in me. I would be very very surprised if this girl is trying to let me off easy.
We have had to much fun together and have gotten along well for that to happen at this point !
Well, in that case, just give it some time and wait until she calls you. Has she done this in the past? Taken a long time to call you back. Her past interactions with you should be your guide.
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