break up long distance relationship - need male advice!

lindsey

i am so confused at to what has happed to my relationship and the past two years of my life. i have been dating this guy long distance for two years. him on the west coast, me on the east. in the two years we have broken up three times know, he was the one always intiating the break up, i was always so sad and he was always the one to want to get back together w/ me. we are opposites in the fact that i am really outgoing and adventrouse and he is very mellow and simple, but it has worked. he does not communicate and i always thought that if we could be in the same city i could manage to get closer to him and work things out and build a better bond, i feel i can get to know anyone deep down, i had a really hard time trying to get to know him. but at least for the first year, i always felt like he was really into me, but i think i am insecure in myself and i think he senses that.

anyway, we have been fighting over the past few months, well really not even fighting, we were going to talk in jan 2005 about if one of us would move - so i think i had been trying to find some security in the fact that this realtionship will work out, so i have been very needy asking him if he loves me all the time, testing the realtionship all the time stupid mistake. and he hates any sort of drama, hates it. so again was pushinghis buttons and he said it is over, then of course i got so upsert, and then kept calling , being a annoying. he said he needed his time and space and then after a few days of me still not giving him that. he then tells me he just does not think it is going to work out, i am still upset and need to understand why. well he comes to the conclusion that his heart is not in it anymore, he does not have the feelings that i would want him to have and have not for a few months (the past few months all my insecurties about the relationship have been comeing out). he also said even after our other two break ups he never felt this feelings. he said the feels "hollow". he says we are not compatible.

and i do realize he has some form of commitment issues, it is pretty obviouse.

ok so, at tis point i am upset, but i go in and out of being sad, and being fine, before w/ the other break ups i was so devistated 24/7. in a sense i feel this is a good oppritunity to pull my life together and focus on me and make myself better. but i still miss him and of course want him back. not know but maybe later.

I need advice on these things....

Did my neediness kill his feelings for me?

Can the feelings come back?? or are they gone forever ?(don't know if it matters, but without being to stuck up, i am really attractve - at least a 9 or 10 physically - but need to work on inside)?

What can I do to make them come back?

If I get stronge and appear confident will he want me back? or will he just still feel empty feelings for me?

Advice please!