[yeformerballandchain]

I have never had such a hard time finding a job. Especially, when I need it the most.

I have to be making this harder than it really is. Or am I?

Facts:

I am in the seventh month of a divorce from H...! (Refer to previous posts in Divorce, for loud details.)

I live in a very small community, where my soon to be ex, has business contacts, I don't know or haven't met. (Job placement problems)

Money is extremely tight and I have MAYBE one month of rent left in my bank account, then out on the street I go again.

I have an almost completed college education.

My last job paid me $8 and hour. I can't make it on that, anyone can do the math. For example, my rent is $550 a month, then utilities, etc. Clearing $250 a week on that check. My last job was a temp job and doing something I have never done before (factory maintenance), but I performed the task well.

I made $8 in high school, decades ago!

I have always been in Office Administration and held highly paid and high profile positions.

My resume has a lag in it because of going to school and the torment at home in the last several years.

My car, the big problem, is over 20 years old, will take me 10 miles one way before I start to worry it will blow up. No heater, no muffler, blown head gasket, raw gas fumes, etc. etc.

Divorce is delayed AGAIN, so any settlement is uncertain and unlikely.

I want to move to another State, but I have no leads on where to go. Since money is tight, I cannot afford to make a mistake on a move. I will have to take a uhaul and leave the car here. So... I will need to find a place where there is good public transportation and cheap, cheap rent until I get a few paychecks under my belt.

Am I looking at this too logically or is logic the answer?

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[SoleMate]

Logic is definitely the answer, and you are on the right track for sure. You know that better days are ahead, it is just a matter of hanging on until they arrive. I would just add that in your situation, help from other people makes a HUGE difference. For instance, could you live with friends anywhere? That saves a lot on rent, and you can contribute to costs and do some housework so it feels fair all around. Just emotional support from friends and family will be a big help. You need as many caring listeners to share your feelings and plans with as you can get!

Not sure about your D, but are you walking away penniless? Was your D well handled such that you got a fair settlement? Did your lawyer do the utmost to protect your financial situation?

Final thought: what about onsite manager of an apartment building? You get free rent and some cash, and you are well qualified, given your maintenance background. Good luck!

[mt_joy]

Hang in there. Things will get better. Just keep looking. Take care.

[yeformerballandchain]

You are very correct. Logic/friends are the answer.

I use so much logic it is making my head spin. I was wondering if I was using too much logic though. I have the tendency to make things harder than they have to be by beating them to death with logic.

Logic is saying e.g.:

"Darkest before the Dawn", as it has always been.

"Bottom of circle of life, things have to go up from here."

Emotion and the concern of some family and friends is get any job, just get a job.

Logic says, I will be in the same boat as I am now, if I keep taking what I can get instead of what I need.

Divorce WAS to be final on 3rd of February. However other side has and is not cooperating in the legal aspects. So...hurry and wait again.

A car is the huge issue. I can do whatever I need to do with a running car. No matter how I look at this situation, transportation is the ONLY big issue I have right now. Correct this problem and I believe everything will fall into place.

Wondering if it is careless of me to place what little money I have left into a better car instead of the rent. I know it sounds stupid, but it should work in a LOGICAL way. Or am I using emotion here???

Tx for the good words.

smd

[herbalyyys]

i was going to mention, why dont you try an aparment manager position? And moving from Stepfordville * * would be easy if you went to Vegas,baby!!six weeks to the day after my 1st husband moved there we got a divorce(gotta love those dancers),and I was left literally out on my tush.With nothing but my van(he had it re-po'd,even tho Judge told him to make payments for 8 months)watch out for that.so i had my van, three adult chihuahuas, and seven chihuahua puppies-only three weeks old. and the small ammount of clothes I could grab.i got a job at major casino as security-the big casinos have there own employee lounges,and showers, and buffet linesand their own uniforms/cleaners.You do the figuring out on where I lived for 3 and a half weeks, till first paycheck came in. Then I got a small studio apartment,and quickly, things went up and easy!!!!great job, great people,learned not all dancers are sluts and very few were gorgeous without all the makeup.And busses on every corner,cabs running non-stop-no prob with transportation.See its a place where people go to find their dreams...and a town where others prey on that.So, TONS of low cost apartments,EASY immediate work,and the city NEVER sleeps--always something to do.

[yeformerballandchain]

herbalyyys, excellent idea !

This is/was the answer I was looking for. I have this desire to throw caution to the wind; pack only what I need; give the key to apartment to my friends to empty other belongings and get out of Dodge (stepford).

Facts:

Told by many that I do not belong in small city/town, do not have the small town mind.

What have I got to lose?

Royally p.o. my soon to be ex. and both attornies too. (which makes me smile so much.)

All of your points are the logic I am looking for to move. Public transportation, a growing city with many job opportunities, warm weather, cost of living.

Still have plane ticket from summer before the final 'blow', as if a foreshadow of things to come. Hmmm

I would love to learn more. If you have time...please hit email link and fill me in on any hints you may have for me.

Tx so much, heading for research on Vegas!

smd