Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
I was thinking about this as my bf came to my place for one week... whether we like it or not, as soon as they move in, we take the place of their mother.
Oh, sure, he may clear the table once in a while, maybe even do laundry, but then, he is getting sex with the lady of the house too.
So please, share, how do you devide the responsabilities?
I had a raw this week end, I just don't want to be the only one to cook. So what if he can't? IT's always his time on the tv, his time on the net, his time on the puter, his time with the guys. We are not gonna be able to live on frozen food if we ever decide to have kids, you know?
I refuse to take it. If I end up an old spinster, so be it. I refuse to shave just because he decided to drop by one week end, I refuse to clean just because it's nice. These little habits turn into routine and then it's over. Maid for life! Sorry, not for me. Must be my freaki' education makin' me feel guilty for it
I'm mad. I'd really like to hear about a very nicely balanced couple where none of them feels or is used, please! Thank you.
As I guy who cooks, is more than willing to hand over "the wand of power... a.k.a. the remote", and who insists on doing the dishes... I can't really relate. Heck, I get in trouble for cleaning up at my girlfriend's place when she cooks.
But having friends like mine, I can tell you this. Letting them starve, just not cleaning, etc... does only one thing; your place will go to the dogs. The only way to deal with it is talk to them about it. And then keep after them. Don't nag, just offer compromises (and don't use sex as a reward.) He clears the table and puts the dishes in the washer, then you'll watch some "guy flick" with him.
And if he doesn't respond to that, then make it clear what is yours and his and regulate his use of your belongings.
This is truley pathetic but Greg and I have a chore list. If it's my day to cook he does the dishes. If it's his day to cook he usually gets take out but it isn't supposed to be drive thru or pizza. This works well for us because we're both really busy and neither of us have time to do everything. As far as TV when Footballs on he gets the livingroom TV when a chick flick is on I get the livingroom tv.
and if he cannot cook, well he can do the dishes, and there is take out.
personally, i like how i clean, so i do the cleaning, and i do not really trust him to do my laundry, plus i have three times the clothes...so i do that too.
but i do not usually do the garbage or the recycling....unless it is out of control.
you just need to work out some things. which is why it is nice to have that chore list, at first at least.
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If it gets really bad you can do 'every man for himself'. You fix yourself something for dinner and he does the same. But definitely set some ground rules for living in the same home, it's not your job to do all the work!
That's all on the chore list. I think my day to vaccume is Wendsday and Saturday his are other days. I do my own laundry sometimes I'll throw a couple of his shirts in but only to make a full load. I won't let him touch my clothes becasue he doesn't wash or fold them right. but he cleans the sheets, towels ect.
Oh but I NEVER EVER take out the garbage or recycling... that's just a mans job!!
It's stupid, I don't live with my bf, but boy do I feel happy about finding one "solution" to that. He's nice enough to cooperate, so putting it into action won't be such a problem.
Next week end!!!!!
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Have he greatest week, girls!!! People say it will finally snow in Paris! Good news everywhere!
Well, all the French sites (even cnn I think) said: "heavy snow" and nothing. Not a flake.
Moi, today I got the confirmation that it's not his bad will that stops him from getting more involved in the housework. Here's what happene: I left him at my place - he's been at my place for over a week, left this evening - sleeping. I went to school really early and on my way home - around 19 h, I call him. He hadn't eaten all day and was starved to death. Was waiting for me to have dinner together. Breakfast in his case. That's my boy, LOOL!!
Ok, Stone, I'll tell you the truth. He is currently looking for a place in Paris to move in as for now he lives outside the city. I am just starting my worrior fight (Goooooooo Curlyyyy) to get an internship. So timing really sucks.
I'd love to take diving lessons just for me. The last month I didn't even got to swim ! Plus... we're speaking France here: France is responsable for half the world's "production" of chefs. Those are damn expensive. I don't know about amateur cooking classes, that's true.
Anyway... it's kinda my fault. Because... I love to cook for him. Ok, ok, I am guilty. But just because I love to do that for him doesn't excuse him from at least being able to feed himself (or cook something decent) once in a while. So there you go. I'm a very good cook and I totally melt when I see how happy he is when I make his favourite dish... So I kind of did it with my own hand, LOOL!
Anyway, it's a couple of hectic months. I'll make the chore list and put it in place and I promise to keep you post it .
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