[iamwalrus]

hey....


what do chicks think of shy guys... for example: when i call girls to talk, I always end up sounding like a weirdo and end up saying things like: "yep. cool-cool. then i kinda smack my lips and say, well i guess i'll see ya round" and casually sorta "hang up" after saying bye.

I i suck so much at talking to chicks.... do chicks understand that?

[Sukotto]

Well if your want them to be attracted to you then you need to sound as confident as possible and when you run out of things to say just end the conversation.

"Anyway, I have to go start making dinner. I'll speak to you later"

"I have to go pick up my gran from the airport. I'll speak to you later"

"I wont keep you any longer, bye"

The list is endless, as soon as I detect that i'm either running out of things to say and their not going to help with the conversation then end the conversation confidently.

[alphamale]

if you are young it is related to age, inexperience and lack of confidence.

assuming you are a relatively smart dude you'll figure out all this shyt as you get older.

when I was like 22 I was so deathly afraid of girls I could barely talk to them.

dealing with females is just like anything else, you need to learn and get experience and then keep it up so you don't get rusty.

[birdstealingbread]

Do you know these girls very well? You might do better to communicate with them in other ways - in person, instant messenger, e-mail. You might also want to make a list of topics to discuss with them if you find the conversation slowing down. (Sure, it sounds kind of dorky, but it's worked for a lot of my guy friends.)

When you do speak on the phone, try calling for a reason - like, "Do you know how to solve this problem from the math homework?" or even better, "Do you want to go see a movie this weekend?" Like Sukotto said, when you say good-bye, be sure to make it sound like you have something else to do.

Don't worry. It takes practice, but these things WILL come to you more naturally someday!

As for whether girls "understand"...well personally, I have always been attracted to the more introverted types. Shy guys tend to be much more sensitive, and I find awkwardness adorable.

[Sukotto]

Some girls like the challenge of getting a shy guy, they think the guy is playing hard to get and that just drives them mad.

I typed up a page in word with an opening sentence and bullet points of topics when I was asking out this girl who i'd met once but got on well with. I usually do it when I call a girl for the first time since I really get nervous, thats probably down to me being the tender young age of 20 though. As alphamale said it improves with time and experience.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by Sukotto
Some girls like the challenge of getting a shy guy, they think the guy is playing hard to get and that just drives them mad.

The above is true SUKOTTO. It help also if the girls don't know the guy is shy. When I was young there were many girls interested but I never realized it cause I was so shy and lacking confidence with girls. Some of them were quite aggressive in approaching me and showing interest but I just never figured it out or was to shy to do anything. This really fanned their flames and they chased even harder.

[Groovy]

I used to think shy guys were the nicest ones of all to date. Now I know it just means their shy.....