[Broken_Chain]

Well first off i'm in high school and in grade 11. This girl i want to go out with is a very close friend of mine and we have known each other since grade 2. She used to do drugs like cocaine and E but has now stopped. She tells me everything about herself and i tell her everything about me. She hangs out with a completely different crowd then i do (smokers,druggies) but we still are very close, we have ALOT in common. I am what you would call a 'nice' guy who respects women. She is a very beautiful girl and i guess you could say im decent looking. However, she does not go for 'looks'. She doesnt know that i like her and im afraid to tell her because i fear that it will make things akward between us. This situation is tearing me up inside i do hope that you guys and help...

[Broken_Chain]

come on guys...

this situation is burning a hole through my heart...

please help me out

[Merin]

Well it's up to you to decide what's right for you here..

If you like her and have a romantic interest in her then you have a couple of options..

You can either talk to her and tell her how you feel and risk possible rejection if she doesn't feel the same way..
OR You can keep it to yourself and kick yourself in the butt later on that you didn't take the risk.

IMO you can usually tell IF someone has a mutual interest in you..

I will say this.. IF this girl asks for your advice on other guys, or gives you all the 411 of who she is into (and it isn't you) then she may see you as a friend only..

Good Luck

[razor]

JUST DO IT!

I't must be very frustrating. I have been the " nice guy" and have been on both sides. I had female friend that had feelings for me and I didn't feel the same way. She was hurt. It took her 2 years to be friends with me again. But it was never the same. Also I have had feeling for a friend and she didn't and it took me a few months to get over it but we are great friends again. PS now I am the "bad nice guy" instead of the "nice guy". I have also began dating someone I was friends with but it was mutual.

You have 2 options.

1) Tell her: Positive reaction: she feels the the same way. And you are on cloud 9 for who knows how long.
Negative reaction: You are very sad, can't be friends with her until you deal with those feelings

2) Don't tell her and hope she feels the same way: Good luck. This will eat you alive. I don't recommend this from personalxperience. You are probably acting weird around anways and jealous when she is talking to other guys. Why put yourself through this.

My recomendation is this: I believe that she values your friendship and will likely not want to jeopardize that even if she really likes you. And thinks that she doesn't deserve to be with a nice guy like you . But you never know. If she rejects you may have to mind other friends to hang out with until you deal with your feelings.
I still think she needs to deal with her issues and she sees you as an emotional support. And that dating window has closed.

Good luck. Don't sell yourself short. I'm sure there are alot of girls that would like to be with you. Don't be the rescuer. Girls love these guys but don't date him. I'm only sharing my personal experience. Im in my 30's

[7on]

Yeah, look at it this way, if she does reject you - you will have a female friend that can give you pointers on how to make yourself pleasing to other women or even hook you up with friends of hers.

I have a slight free of rejection and had a slight desire to remain single. However, I have changed my mind. ;D