[Jutty]

Last summer i bought this heart pendant with blue gems on a silver chain with intention that i would give it to my real close friend. I had forgoten and about it and realized after christmas I still had it. My thought now is that i would give it to her for Valentine's day. I'm just concerned, should a guy give his best female friend something like that when she's engaged to be married later this year? My thought is that it be a way to express how much her friendship means to me? She means alot to me, she help me get more of a life than i had before we met. What do others think about this?

[LucreziaBorgia]

It depends on how secure this guy and girl are with their relationship, and the timing. If they are really secure, then giving her a necklace (and a note or card expressing gratitude for the friendship with no ambiguous romantic language) would be seen as a nice gesture. If the guy is even the slightest bit suspicious or insecure with the relationship, then I can't imagine he would see it as anything other than an attempt to hit on his fiance.

You may also want to consider the timing - giving someone a gift like that on Valentine's Day, no matter how innocuous can often be seen as having a romantic intent (even when none is there): particularly since its a heart necklace. I'm thinking card for Valentine's day, and a heartfelt gift with a card at an either earlier or later date than Valentine's day.

My gut feeling is: give her the necklace, but maybe not on Valentine's Day.

[alphamale]

giving a heart pendant to a close female friend it totally inappropriate at any time of year, especially when she is ENGAGED.

there are other ways to express you friendship with gifts for her. i suspect that you are secretly in love ( ) with her but don't let her fiance find out otherwise he may get violent on you.

good luck.

[Jutty]

We've been friend longer than she's even known the guy. We met at work Labor Day weekend 2003. If we were both working we would always sit together, and always go on break together too. Then early in December 2003, she met this guy at work and they were a couple in like 3 days. they talk about getting married, last February he ivited her on a trip to Disney with his family and then he went into the Army in March. They broke up in April and then she started seeing his brother which is one she is engaged too. They've been engaged since sometime late in the summer. In mid July her and I decided to get together for lunch and ended up spending the rest of the day together. We went to the mall and when her fiance got out of work we went to pick him up and then the 3 of us hung out in her bedroom until i left. It was the best time i had spend with a friend in ages. I never saw her again until the day after the sox won the world series. We ment at the mall, the 3 of us hung out and then went to dinner at bugaboo creek. I seen her twice more since then, the last time was on Christmas eve eve. She had just been in the hospital with the flu. I gave her her christmas gift. when i left she told me to call her to let her know i got home safely. Last week she invited me to go out to dinner with her and her fiance. She's like the best i have and the only one that ever calls me besides my mother and sister.