i am an OW and i am pregnant. 4 and a half months to be exact. girls let me tell you it is very hard being the OW. he hardly comes around ever since i told him i was pregnant. i recently found out what i was having(a boy). that's what we both want. he does not even know what im having yet because i have not seen him in about a week. before i got pregnant he was there almost everyday. my mother told me he would start to act like this because he has an obligation to his wife. i love him very much and i thought he loved me but i see now that was a lie. it was just convenient for him to get between my legs. his wife suspects something is going on. i know her and her family. i was somewhat of the babysitter. i use to live with his wife's mother and sister before i met him and his wife. i was 15 yrs old when i met him and he was 25. now im 18 and hes 28. so hes been there and done that. now my son is going to suffer for our mistakes. please don't be like me. im a college student with a baby to be and no help.

[LucreziaBorgia]

Originally posted by diamondluv
now my son is going to suffer for our mistakes.

It doesn't have to be like that, if you really think about it. The only way he is going to suffer is if you expose him to situations in which he will suffer. Is the MM willing to relinquish his parental rights to your child? Sometimes it is better to have no father than a half-assed one. Anyone can father a child: but that doesn't mean he will be a good father. Who knows? You are young, and you may find a man in the future that will be good for you and be a great father for your child. It is tough to do it on your own, but take some time to see if there are any support groups in your area that you can click with and gather help and support from until you get back on your emotional feet again. You'll be surprised how much help there is out there - its just a matter of forcing yourself to look away from unhelpful situations, and look toward helpful ones.

[BoatingBabe]

He has to help you, with child support...if not, bring him to court..you don't have to do it on your own...Make him be responsible for your son.

[Pocky]

And here we are - a time when I do think it's necessity to tell the wife of the affair. The reason for this is because now a child is involved and the father needs to be held accountable for the fact that he is bringing another life into the world that he is responsible for. The wife should be aware of this child as soon as possible. I would advise him that he should let his wife know of the situation or you will need to contact her. Contact a lawyer - one that offers free legal counsel since you're a college student (often times there will be legal counsel available at the college you attend) and find out what you need to ensure you will receive assistance from the father in raising the baby.

[Grinning Maniac]

Well, your life is pretty much over unless you nix the kid or put him up for adoption, wouldn't you say?

[Barby]

You should expose the affair, not to "get even" but because this innocent child deserves to have both a Mother and a Father..but maybe the best thing would be for you to give him up for adoption? (just a thought)...

If you're sure you're keeping your baby then I say act now, expose the affair, take him to court and get child support.


Sadly you opened yourself up to this...you knew he was married and sadly what you said...

i love him very much and i thought he loved me but i see now that was a lie. it was just convenient for him to get between my legs.

was right on target..now it's "NOT SO convenient" and now he's facing "additional" responsibility, honestly he's probably on to the "next one" by now or out searching for her....Do what's right for your baby...(whatever that may be).

[littleflowerpot]

Originally posted by Grinning Maniac
Well, your life is pretty much over unless you nix the kid or put him up for adoption, wouldn't you say?

what the hell?