i've been seeing (dating?) this guy a lot and we've become pretty close. he calls me often and I *think* he may want to be more than friends because he took me to a really nice restaurant last night. the date went super well although i sort of ruined the chance for a goodnight kiss (he knows i am very conservative, so i guess it may be OK?).
anyway, he's an english major too and i lent him a book of mine, which i now realize has my old bookmark in it that has a picture of two bunnies and says 'friends' underneath it. he's really sensitive and tries to pick up on hidden meanings i've noticed, so do you think he'll think anything of it?
is there a way to correct my 'mistake'? i don't want him to think i'm just interested in only being friends! i feel like i've screwed this up, especially at such a delicate time! what do you think?
I wouldn't worry about it- it's a bookmark! He probably didn't kiss you because he respects you and knows you are conservative. When you are around him again- give him a sign that you are interested-make the first move! If you don't feel comfortable grabbing him and kissing him, maybe sit closer, let your eyes meet, touch his hand or something like that to give him a sign.
good luck!
he's really timid and doesn't have the best self esteem, so i'm just afraid he'll try to avoid the moment again, and think that i really *do* just want to be friends... should i make any mention of it, such as 'i haven't read that book since middle school, i may have left a bookmark in it, but it doesn't mean anything!'
I probably wouldn't say anything about the bookmark. If you are really concerned about it- say something like 'did I leave a bookmark in there? I've had it for years and I can't find it,' but I wouldn't worry too much. If he is interested, that is not enough to turn him off- specially if you make an effort to see him and get 'closer'
if he took u to a nice restaurant then he wants to be more than friends with you. now, you need to encourage him and show him you want the same (kiss, hold hands, whatever...).
hmmm ... if you really think you have to bring up the bookmark, then ok. but really, i don't think you do. i don't know that boys read into things the same way we girls do. maybe they do. i don't really know.
i've done and said things in the past that i thought were HUGE signs of disinterest. and i made such a big deal about the message i was sending. but few of them ever caused a bad affect like i thought they did. instead of dwelling on the possible perceived message of a bookmark, make extra special effort to send out the vibe you want.
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