[SadAndLonely]

I'm so upset, I don't know what to do. My boyfriend (if I can even call him that anymore) and I have been having some rough times lately. He's broken up with me three times in the past, although the last time was at the beginning of September, so it's been a while. But two weeks ago, partially because of the stress of Christmas, he seemed really moody. After a week I asked him what was wrong, and he told me that he wasn't sure what he wanted, although he didn't want to dump me. So we said we'd relax and back off a bit, and things were going great, until New Year's. His father is an alcoholic, and asked my boyfriend and I and his mom to go visit for dinner, which we did, and that put my boyfriend in a bad mood, which of course started me panicking again. Things got a bit better after that, but he's still been distant lately. Last night he called to talk, and I was really sick and exhausted and upset by the day I had, and started crying and trying to cling to him, which he hates. He kept telling me not to worry and to just relax, and that I wouldn't lose him, but I don't know. I just want to back off and reclaim my self esteem and happiness, but I'm so terrified to lose him again. Very few days go by when I don't worry that he's going to dump me.

I'm so messed up right now.

[hugznkisses21]

Ok first let me tell u I know how u feel...with guys and their moods....but try not to freak out....

Try to maybe do your won thing and back off for a while, go out have a good time and he should come crawling back to you. Dont make youself so availble to him, emotionally and physically....I think what is going on here is he is playing mind games with you and loves the fact that you will always beg for him to stay. Well dont do it anymore be strong...guys like that and they like a girl who gives them a bit of a chase....so chin up, have fun and he will come around...if not mind games arent the way to have a relationship and u dont need that so get rid of him.