Its good that you know - but the very best thing to do is let it go. It sounds like it was a one time thing (I suspect that the massage parlor was not a legit medical one and was a thinly veiled brothel - we have a "massage parlor" here too, where I've been told that for a fee you can get a hand job or a blow job, or considerably more if you put up enough cash). It sounds like your man was caught up in the illicit nature of having sex completely devoid of emotion. Prostitutes are after money, not your man. It was a business transaction that involved sexual contact - physical betrayal, at the very most. It doesn't appear to have had any effect on him since the past four years have been characterized by this:
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He has been the most amazing person that I have ever been with-incredible caring, thoughtful and an amazing partner. I always thought to myself how did I get so lucky to be with a man who is so loving and caring, and understanding and respectful.
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He has admitted that he was wrong, and has told you that he is willing to work through the pain it has caused you. I expect though that you are going to need an extra bit of help to get past the feelings of betrayal and dishonesty - a man may not think much about paying someone for emotionless sex, but for his partner - it is something completely different. At least he is able to understand that and is willing to work with you.
Set up a counselling session - he may have some issues to talk out, and I know for sure that you do, and sometimes it is best handled through an objective third party. Hopefully through these sessions, you can begin to put it behind you.
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