I don't drink, no drugs, Good to my mother, good to my
Girlfriend. I Volunteer for a few charities etc etc.
My prob is: I work at a Furniture shipping outlet, Good job,
Good pay. Been here 2 years now.
It's Christian family-owned. I'm not a christian, but went to sunday school as a kid,
know the stories, just don't follow any book, religion.
They had hired me cuz they liked me, i was nice, had the experience,
and I took the job, even though they are Very Judgemental towards
non-believers. They make comments about issues, people regarding
their beliefs and how Christian is "The Way To Go". They've never
really bugged me too much, but my boss has told me a few t-shirts,
i've worn were unappropriate ( Frankenstein t-shirt, Led Zeppelin t-shirt)
He Always Always checking out My shirts asking what every one means,
and will show his disgust or just shake his head and walk away. I wore
a Sugarcult(a Rock/Pop band) shirt once that just said Sugarcult and he said
it was offensive because the word Cult is devilish, witches etc.
I wanna say something to they're judgemental, ignorant comments,
but I don't want to be rude. I respect they're beliefs and have for 2 years,
I mean, I respect Christianity, it's just Not for me.
It's really start to get to me. If there is a problem at the company, they always
say "it's in God's hands" and do nothing about it. The lady upstairs in the Purchasing Dept is having
trouble with her Daughter who is dating a Non-Believer and she complains all
day about it. She told me that "i better marry a christian and raise my kids
in the church" so that they stay out of trouble. How much good has it done her
with her Daughter?
Anyway, I'm thinking about leaving, finding another job, But I am really at the end of my rope
and ready to say something mean, if I get another comment.
anyone else run into this sort of thing???
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just give them your notice and if they ask why you are leaving tell them an angel came to you in your sleep and requested your assistance for recreating the next messiah.
haha...kidding. you do not need to give a reason or tell them what you think of the way they run their business..... yoy were employeed for your exoerience, not your opinion.
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If your boss says that your clothes are innappropriate, then that's that. Many places have strict dress codes. It sounds to me that your place of employment has a laxed agreement. I say don't abuse it. It also sounds like that's the only thing really bothering you. Leave it alone and respect the boss' judgement on what he chooses his patrons to see.
As far as other employees there making comments and suggestions, all you really have to say, ( and I suggest you do this ), "You've been a witness to me and I know you're sharing the seed, you've done that, watch and see if it grows." Then ask if they'd not talk about your lifestyle and going to Church, and allow you to be you.
It's a shame that a lot of Christians bear such self righteous, "Do as I say, not what I've shown", type mentality. It happens, but better safe for you to self examine yourself and see if it's time for you to join the flock, then to jump in for sake of a paycheck.
IF, you decide it's still not for you, ask your employer, and your peers, to accept that even unbelievers are children of God and are here for His purpose as well.......whether for good or for bad.
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"The conscience water saw it's maker, and blushed" - Water to Wine......
Since it's a family-owned small business, there's not much you can do. I would not complain or bring it up to other co-workers because word gets around so easily in a store like your's and it's such a personal environment that things could get bad for you quickly. My store's owner and his family are very religious (at least he says that) - we carry so much cross jewelry that I feel like I'm in church. His wife and his brother especially love to discuss the Bible and preach to us at work. It's annoying at times and it makes me a little uncomfortable. My boss is actually a pretty sleazy person, so it's almost funny when he talks about God. You just have to listen and act like you care, and eventually they'll switch topics. If it's something that's really a bother to you, then consider leaving, but if you're happy there otherwise, I'd just suck it up. Finding a good job right now is very difficult esp. when you're young w/o much experience - trust me, I'm right there with ya. Good luck.
I have them at my job and other places, I usually just ignore them. I always feel bad for those people who feel anyone who is not like them aren't good or worthwhile. Because they miss out on a lot of great people in their world that could have been their friend and enriched their minds.
It's a private business and he can run it as he sees fit. If he wants to tell you to wear a purple tutu to work every morning, he has that right. You knew the score going in, but you chose to take the job anyway. If you don't like it, you can quit; however, I wouldn't burn my bridges with the family. If you're going to quit, being polite is the way to go.
Although I am not from the Bible Belt, many of my family members are, and what you are describing to me is truly not that bad given other stories I've heard.
In fact, I don't think anything you've talked about is really unique to them being Christians but could be applied to any small, family-owned business where you are automatically the "outsider."
Basically, your only complaint is that you can't wear certain rock t-shirts. I have to wear a suit everyday so I would love to just have a job wear I could wear jeans! That kind of dress code could go at ANY establishment (Christian or not). They have a right to tell you certain t-shirts are not appropriate and you need to respect that.
But again, I think the real issue is that this is a small place and you are seeing how this family operates from the inside and what's important to them. Can you just blow off the lady upstairs? I mean, outside of her frustration with her daughter and her one comment to you, do they push their beliefs down your throat all the time? It doesn't sound like they do.
Before looking for another job, remember sometimes it is better to stick with "the Devil you know" (no pun intended) then to go someplace else. Consider the usual business things like pay, hours, flexibility, etc. before making the move. You'll have to deal with this kind of BS at almost any shop, and compared to some places I've worked, I would rather deal with a bunch of self-righteous Christians than a bunch of selfish backstabbing heathens!!!
If there is a problem at the company, they always
say "it's in God's hands" and do nothing about it.
HAHAHA. And people wonder why Marx called it the "Opiate of the Masses" ? "Honey our store is burning down and a man is stealing your purse" "It's O.K Bob, it's all God's plan".
Remember, religious discrimination applies to religious people discriminating again non believers as well. Don't take any **** from these people.
Remember, religious discrimination applies to religious people discriminating again non believers as well. Don't take any **** from these people.
I happen to be one of, "these people", and if I feel that a rock t-shirt may offend my paying customers, you're not going to wear it......or you can clock out and go home. It has nothing to do with religous preference, it has everything to do with keeping my clients comfortable in my shop. The line between religious discrimination and plain offending customers isn't a thin one. You'd be laughed out of court.
Moose, take a look at the Led Zeppelin shirts available--is anything even remotely offensive to you?
I'm asking you as a business owner, not a religious person,
No I personally don't see anything wrong with any Led Zep shirts, I think they're an awesome group. But it's not me that I'm worried about offending, from a business owners POV......
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