[emotionsmessmeup]

Ok my bf just dumped me after longdistance 5 year old relationship.
since august there is a girl...(who is not in the same city as him)..
whom he met...and they are talking..
she calls him even at 6 am sometimes...
He called her to say bye from the airport before leaving the country..
I already asked my bf about this...he swears she is just a friend..
that is ugly and she could never be his gf....but they haev so much in common so he likes talking to her over the phone...
and he just wanted to say bye to her..
but then why do they talk so much..?
should i call the girl up and confront just to get closure..
I believe she knows he has a gf..and she stil calls him..
i am not with him but i want closure..
at the sme time if i do this..she will tell him..and the little hope that i have of him comming back will also go..
what should i do?

[emotionsmessmeup]

will somebody plz respond?

[chica]

I don't think you should call her - at all.
And I think it would be best for you to give your ex space as well.
If you are hoping that you guys can get back together, you need to back off.

It can be tough being on your own, get busy with other things and people - you'll feel better.

good luck

[emotionsmessmeup]

u know its hard to think..oh she gives him a wake up call or
oh she says good night before sleeping..
he'll call and speak to ehr for hours but speak to me for 2 mins...
is there still a chance?
or should i use no contact?

[chica]

NO contact.

I know it's hard to swallow, but have some respect for yourself and try to come to terms with the reality of the situation.

His actions are a reflection of his feelings, for her and for you.
Lay low. Let it unravel itself however it's meant to be.
Keep yourself busy with other things and try to see the lessons and positives in this unpleasant situation. It's YOUR life and only you can make the decision to move forwards and grow from it.

Have you got close friends who can help you through it?

[ixlives]

Had a very similar situation. My g/f and a male friend began talking quite a bit more than they had, from once or twice a month to 5-6 times a day. He too had called to say goodbye from the airport at a very early hour, and once when I was headed out of town, she was on the phone with him within minutes of dropping me off. Anyways, besides the increased conversations, there were lies about him. I did confront him, and told him he was causing tension between us, as I did with her. I was courteous and honest with him. Well, he played dumb. I went with my gut, and said if shes going to put more effort into a friendship, which I saw turning into something more, than with us, we wont work. Go woth your gut, like the old saying.....' if it walks and talks like a duck,,,,,it's a duck!' I did,,,,and was right,,,,,again!