[sexyfire99]

Hello,

Im back with another question. before i told you that i had just got out of my marriage of 3 years and we had been together for 5 years, and a week later a friend was at the house and we ended up messing around but i would not sleep with him, well two weeks later we ended up sleeping together, he called me every day and at night before he went to bed, he would get off work and call and come over and then he started to come over every day for a week with one of his best friends also his cousin with the girl he is talking to, well this girl and i became friends and is now moving in with me, after about a week he stoped coming over but continues to call me all the time, he didn't come over for about a week and then i talked to him christmas eve and he said he was going to the bar but 10 minutes later showed up at my house. Of course i slept with him christmas eve and i have still talked to him every night sience then before going to bed. He also has been divorced and sighned papers in march which he had been seperated for three years, what do i do. My friends which are also his friends have talked to him and he is telling each of them something tottally different. The girl who just moved in is also his best friend and she said he tells her everything and he told her that he is scared that me and my ex will get back together, but he told one of his guy friends that i was not his type, but then his cousin is telling me not to push him that he is still scared to get into another relationship. His bestfriend that just moved in with me says to not send him any test messages, not to call him and to just ignore him and that will get to him. But i feel that is wrong because he has done nothing to me at all, i have no reason to ignore him. What do i do. Please help i care so much about him and don't know why i feel so strong about him.

[Cheeto]

Sexyfire...Sounds to me like you are being used. This guy just got out of marriage less than a year ago and it is highly unlikely that he wants another commitment this soon...I wouldn't. Also, you JUST GOT OUT of a marriage...so you are probably pretty vulnerable right now...I would be if I hadn't been with her for so long (21 yrs). Now I think I would have a hard time trusting anyone else beyond being a "special friend" and would definitely make it clear to whoever up front just to help eliminate the crap you are talking about from happening. Hell...I haven't even attempted at finding someone else and I probably won't until I know who I am again. Sounds like he wants the bennies without the bummers. Tell him you just want to be friends and see what happens. Hell...ask him what he wants out of the relationship...who knows, he might actually tell you honestly...Lots of happiness to you...Cheeto

P.S. One thing that definitely helps out when I am down is to constantly
look to the goal in mind (a positive one of course). I have actually been
re-programming myself to automatically do that when the blues start
setting in and it has become second nature. Now when the blues set in it is only for moments.

AND HEY...I'm living proof