[Angelica]

I just want to share this experience. I'm alone on the holidays. My husband went to business trip. My MM "needed to take a break and focus on his family". I acted like I didn’t' care. Today I wanted to go out with my son to run some errands and found out that my car ran out of battery. I called friends who would come to help me. Now when my MM finally contacted me (we use emails on pocket pc), I told him about my problem. The respond was "Do you have any friends with jumper cables". I asked him if he is my friend and got back "Absolutely" That's all. No more messages
He lives very close. He would sometimes even meet me on weekends. Why do I feel like crying now? I already decided to break this relationship. But I thought we can be friends. Is it a friendly behavior NOT to suggest any help or at least to say something like "I wish I could help but ... "
I feel like sh**t now. Sorry , couldn't keep to myself

[LucreziaBorgia]

Originally posted by Angelica
But I thought we can be friends.

Sometimes people say they are ok with being friends, but really they just hiding romantic intent and calling it 'friends' as an excuse to spend time with the other person. Maybe he thought you were doing this and just backed away wanting to avoid any complications?

I wonder what he would have said if your conversation today went more like this:

"Do you have any friends with jumper cables"
"No, I'm in a spot - is there any way you can come over and help me out so that my son and I can go ahead and get on the road?"

Then you wouldn't have been asking anything outside the normal realm of friendship. What you did instead was put him on the spot, and it made it sound like you were more concerned about him proving that he was your friend than in getting your car jumped. I expect he was questioning your motives and didn't contact you back because he didn't want to get into it. Remember: he told you he was interested in taking a break from you and focusing on his family - that means that he will avoid anything approaching 'relationship' type talk between you two.

[Mr Spock]

Originally posted by Angelica
I just want to share this experience. I'm alone on the holidays. My husband went to business trip. My MM "needed to take a break and focus on his family". I acted like I didn’t' care. Today I wanted to go out with my son to run some errands and found out that my car ran out of battery. I called friends who would come to help me. Now when my MM finally contacted me (we use emails on pocket pc), I told him about my problem. The respond was "Do you have any friends with jumper cables". I asked him if he is my friend and got back "Absolutely" That's all. No more messages
He lives very close. He would sometimes even meet me on weekends. Why do I feel like crying now? I already decided to break this relationship. But I thought we can be friends. Is it a friendly behavior NOT to suggest any help or at least to say something like "I wish I could help but ... "
I feel like sh**t now. Sorry , couldn't keep to myself

That's because he was only using you for sex, and doesn't really care about your feelings or what you're thinking. He's not your friend. So now you get to hurt-it really sucks when you think you're getting what you want until you realize you don't know what you want, doesn't it.

You can't be friends. Simply because YOU saying you want to be friends is just really you keeping tabs on him to see if you can worm your way into his heart someway-like a vulture circling a carcass waiting for the hyenas to leave.

He isn't going to think of an excuse to go help you jump your car on christmas, he's at home. Being a damsel in distress isn't going to make him come running, because he's clearly stated where you stand in the order of his life.

So, be mad!! Be hurt!! But stop answering his calls, because the only screwing that's going to go on will be you screwing yourself.

Cheer up, and do something for yourself.

[Leaf]

So, be mad!! Be hurt!! But stop answering his calls, because the only screwing that's going to go on will be you screwing yourself.

Cheer up, and do something for yourself.

Exactly!

[alphamale]

Originally posted by Mr Spock
That's because he was only using you for sex, and doesn't really care about your feelings or what you're thinking. He's not your friend.

i agree whole heartedly. actually, not only is he NOT her friend but he is an ENEMY