I want to give a little background into my relationship. I had been with my boyfriend a little over a year when he found out that I cheated on him. Obviously, he was very upset and hurt about that.

I apologized and was really sorry about ever cheating on him. Well, we stayed together but over the next couple of months we began to fight a little bit more and I always thought in the back of my mind that he had never forgiven me even if he said he did.

We lived together and just this past month or so I moved out and got my own apartment and we said we were going to take a break. Well, last night he broke up with me.

I am so upset and can't believe I ruined the relationship with the greatest person I've ever met. It kills me! He said he's not closing the door to us ever being together again but it is going to take a lot. I am determined to get him back. I will put up one hell of a fight for him.

Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do? I would greatly appreciate anything anyone has to offer.

KD

[VirginiaBob]

I'm a guy, and I'd have to say that lots of sex works for me when a girl wants me back. I mean that everytime he starts arguing with you, just say I'm sorry and get naked - maybe get down on your knees in front of him if you know what I mean. Hey, just being honest. Also, what you did was pretty bad. Never argue back no matter what. Just say you are sorry and want to do everything you can to make him happy. It won't always be like this or anything, but probably for a good year or so. It's your fault for what you did. Face the music or get out.

[Devildog]

Originally posted by KD193
I apologized and was really sorry about ever cheating on him. Well, we stayed together but over the next couple of months we began to fight a little bit more and I always thought in the back of my mind that he had never forgiven me even if he said he did.

Forgiving and forgetting are two different things. He probably tried very hard to get past the hurt and betrayal. But it is a hard thing to put in the past. He tried, but in the end he probably felt he couldn't let it go.

I am so upset and can't believe I ruined the relationship with the greatest person I've ever met. It kills me! He said he's not closing the door to us ever being together again but it is going to take a lot. I am determined to get him back. I will put up one hell of a fight for him.

Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do? I would greatly appreciate anything anyone has to offer.

KD

What had you done after you cheated on him to restore his trust? Did you make a wholehearted effort and do anything and everything you could to rebuild the trust that was lost? Or did you just expect to put it in the past and forget it happened? You can't do that. You have to go a long way to rebuilding the trust. It takes years, and that is if both parties are willing to work on regaining the trust. Several months after you cheated, and after it came to light is a little late to start trying to make amends. It might be too late. All you can do is try to prove you are going to be fully honest with him if you want to ever have a relationship again.