[Scarlett_girl]

ok..so from my previous posts you all know there is a guy i really like..and here is what has been happening.. he and i make progress but then I dunno..let me give you some examples... he emails me super long emails and we see each other and talk for hours, then i get home and email him back and he doesnt write back.
another time we go for coffe for three hours, when i get home he had already sent me a cute email, then the next week at school we barely talked(granted it was a terrible week schoolwise) then we see each other and talk and flrit and he once again send me a cute email thanking me for all my help in this class saying i'm more helpful than i will ever know..then last week..after a final we had a "moment" and then he hugged me three times in 20 minutes(he is NOT the hugging type) and was complimenting me on my pendant and said my school ID was a really great pic of me...anyhoo..after this ,he sent me an insanely long email telling me some very personal stuff about why he wont be here over break and stuff....there is this party in a couple of days that we are both invited to..he said if he was still in town(if he didnt have to go take care of that personal and pressing stuff out of town) he would sooo be there and we would go together..but he wrote this last thursday..it's now wed and i've heard nothing from him..how am I suposed to take this??
i feel like we take one huge step forward and then 2 small one back...all my friends say no doubt that he likes me and i feel that way too...just..it's never been this hard for me to get a guy!! argh! any comments would help!?!?! a male point of vue??

[alphamale]

he does like you......but as a friend only.

actually most reasonable people agree that women are a bit harder to figure out than men.

[LucreziaBorgia]

Are you keeping a "signs he is into me" scorecard or something?

Just kidding.

Sort of. Seriously - it sounds like you are so concerned with how he shows you he likes you that you are missing the fact that he does like you. It sounds to me like he likes you, and that you two are having a nice relationship - not too deep, not too shallow. It may not be the deep, romantic "I can't live without you for an hour and must call you every day" type relationship, but it sounds pretty positive to me.

If you are concerned about him not calling - then call him. Nothing says you can't pick up the phone and say hello and ask about the party. No sense in putting yourself through such agony when it can be solved with a quick and easy phone call.

If you call and get the cold shoulder, or he just stops emailing/contacting you - THEN you can start worrying that something might be wrong.

[Scarlett_girl]

no one answers the phone at his house..too many roomies so i would not like calling there!
Alpha..why do you say he only likes me as a friend?? we almost kissed last time I saw him but i kinda ruined the moment by looking down and we hugged instead cuz i just wasnt ready to kiss him and start a relationship or anything...as for being only friends..we were only friends last year and we are totally different around each other now..

[alphamale]

Originally posted by Scarlett_girl
Alpha..why do you say he only likes me as a friend??

because his behavior reveals that he likes you as a friend only. It does not seem, at least from what u wrote, that he is pursuing you romantically.

[Scarlett_girl]

umm ok then

i disagree Alphamale, I've liked girls but have not pursued them agressively, espiecially since you say Scarlett girl, that you were friends beforehand, I would just wait it out, if he told you privtae information it means he trusts you and that is a good step! also, if he needs to be out of town to deal with pressing problems, he is probably not thinking about the party. I would not get too upset and get your panties in a knot. I think this is going in the right direction and the next time you almost kiss, i would suggest kissing him! then you will know exactly how he feels!

[Scarlett_girl]

hehe "panties in a knot"...cute..thanks all..I'll see what happens...I agree with you Lucrezia..i think i'm obessing too much on how he acts towards me instead of just enjoying when we are together..cuz we have so much fun and get along so well...thanks for the perpective! I will keep you all posted!