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Old 10th December 2004, 4:02 PM   #1
Diesel
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Things have changed alot please help.

Hello

I have known my gf for more than 3 years we have been together for more than 3 years.

she is 14 and im 15 we study in same grade , we are muslims and we aren't allowed to talk as being bf and gf of eachothers so we hide and then talk in school its pretty difficult , she loves me alot and me too , so everything was going great and now things have changed alot , eveyrone in our school have known about our relationship , my gf doesnt want anyone to know about it , teachers told me to stop it , and last time when i met my gf she told me to better forget me and end this relationship i was like " What are you saying ? you vowed that you wont leave me? and i know she still loves me , today i came to her after one week and told her do you still loves me ? she said ya i love you but we should never do such things that other should know about our relationship she told me , to better wait for the right age , i was like how are we going to stay away from eachothers for 4 or 5 years ? she said we have to , now whenever i look back just to see her she says what's wrongs ? look back and do your work she has hurted me alot , she wont say ' I LOVE YOU' to me as she used to , she is very scared of people , becouse she has a high repution among teachers and she doest want to loose it maybe thats why she wants to end our relationship ? I love her soo much
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Old 10th December 2004, 9:57 PM   #2
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She is 14. She's letting the pressure of her piers affect your relationship with her. It can be pretty crappy when you have to keep your love underwraps, especially during school when you follow a specific religion.

Obviously, I don't think the whole "lets wait 4-5 years" thing will work. You both have much growing up to do. Hell, even 6 months may be enough for you two to realize whether or not this whole thing will work in the end.

My advice: Let her have her space right now. Let her see what she's missing out on. Only then will she come around and flat out tell you what she truly feels.
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Old 10th December 2004, 10:06 PM   #3
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love....not to be mean but i didnt know love at 14 and 15..............i knew like a lot but not love....posters? what do u think?

You guys are quite young, dont get too attached you have lots of learning and fun to have before being tied to one person. Maybe she just isnt ready yet....my bf wasnt ready when i said i loved him. I respected that and as our relationship grew he eventually told me...
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