Let me start by saying, I don't give a damn.

I'm sick of this parenting crap and I WANT OUT!!!!
I'm sick of the needy llittle brats always wanting something, ALWAYS needeing something, I just don't want to go home somtimes. There never quiet, always filthy and messy, ccan't do anything for themselves, and just because my wife (who I'm not so sure IS the right kind of person for me) nagged me to death about having kids! I gave in for this crap? Blech! I'm not gooing to abandon them , but I sure wish I didn't have to be around all this annoying crap anymore. I think I want to leave my nagging, abusive, overweight wife and loud, obnoxious, needy kids and be ALONE foe a few years. What have I done? This marriage, having kids, is like the biggest mistake of freakin life!

Look, I know A lot, if not most parents will see me as the lowest scum of hell for saying what I just did. But I bet their are more Dad's AND moms who feel this way. maybe not always but sometimes.

I tried having kids, and now I find out I hate it.

[Pocky]

Need discipline in your family?

[tiki]

Your kids may hate you too.

[Merin]

Boo freakin Hoo

IF this is the kind of "parent" you are then your Kids are better off with YOU in their lives too.

BTW.. You DON'T "try out" parenting to see if you like it..

Suck it up, quit acting like a spoiled kid yourself.

[EC]

OMG do you know how many people wish they could have kids!!!!!

Ugh!

[Matilda]

Look, I know A lot, if not most parents will see me as the lowest scum of hell for saying what I just did. But I bet their are more Dad's AND moms who feel this way. maybe not always but sometimes.

Yes, I'm sure many, if not most, parents feel that way at one time or another. But, then they come to their senses, because they also know that their children need them. They know that they are responsible for their children. They know that if they don't do the right things for their kids, they will screw up their kids' entire lives.

Take a break from your kids and wife for a week or so. Put some effort into improving your parenting skills, and improving your marital relationship. There are many good books, and some good internet websites that can help you do this.

Running away is not the answer. It will not make your life any happier.

[Dakini]

Originally posted by BadDad
Let me start by saying, I don't give a damn.

I'm sick of this parenting crap and I WANT OUT!!!!
I think I want to leave my nagging, abusive, overweight wife and loud, obnoxious, needy kids and be ALONE foe a few years. What have I done? This marriage, having kids, is like the biggest mistake of freakin life!

I tried having kids, and now I find out I hate it.

Guess you should of thought of that before you had sex.

[LittleMiss]

Yes Parenting is hard and can be difficult to deal with at times. I have a two year old boy that just drives me nuts sometimes. I sometimes wish I could just drop him with the babysitter for awhile so I could get a break. The thing is he's my son, and I love him. I can't imagine life without him. The thought of something happening to him or me not being able to be in his life and see him grow up brings me to tears.

I know you must love your children, and maybe you do need a break to gather your thoughts and then I'm sure you will realize just how imprtant they are to you. Try to imagine never being able to hear their sweet voices and their giggles or how they say "I love you daddy". Wouldn't you miss that?

[LucreziaBorgia]

Everyone gets frustrated sometimes. I get frustrated with my kid. But I don't ever feel like what you described.

You sound a lot like my mother actually. She was young, and didn't want to be married and didn't want the kids that she gave birth to (yes, there are people out there who hate and resent their own children for being alive). She left my dad, and gave us up and signed the adoption papers (since there was some question about the paternity, we had to be legally adopted by the man I now call 'dad'). I am so thankful that she did that. I can't imagine growing up with a mother who was resentful of my father and hated her children. She would have ruined our lives. Much like you are going to ruin your family's by staying with them.

Well, at least you are honest with yourself about it. Now try some of that honesty with your wife. The kindest thing you can do, and the best for your kids in the long run is to tell your wife how you feel, get a divorce and move very far away. Cut them off completely.

Your family deserves happiness, and you are not the person to provide it. Maybe once you are gone, your wife can work on her self esteem, her figure and her outlook on life - find herself a great man who will love her, love her kids and will provide them with a stable happy family life.

Do yourself a favor. Do them a favor. Leave.

[Karen75]

Yes, what he is saying is not exactly a Hallmark sentiment BUT did you ever stop to think about what his situation is and how he may have arrived there? Maybe him and his wife decided on no children before they got married, maybe his wife was a responsible, hardworking person who felt her bio-clock ticking and begged to have kids. LOTS of women try to change the agreement and convince men to have kids with the promise that things will be under control. All of a sudden he finds himself in the situation of a couple of bratty kids and a wife that stays at home all day, eating bonbons, watching TV, letting the kids destroy the house, etc. Also, how do you know that he wasn't trapped into having kids? I'm not saying all women are like this, not by a long shot BUT there are a LOT of women out there who use kids as their meal tickets, trap guys and then do not want to step up and to their part to keep things in order.

Why burn him at the stake for being honest. AND keep in mind that he is saying all of this becasue HE IS STILL THERE! He DIDN'T run off somewhere else and avoid his responsibility!


I also don't think it's fair to try and make him feel bad for all of the people out there who CAN'T have kids.

All I can say is that if you are truly that unhappy at home you need to take some time and distance yourself from it. If you decide it's not the life for you then you should leave but that doesn't absolve you from at least teh financial responsibilty of your kids. You did still lay down to make them. If you decide to stay remember that this is your life, too and you do have a say. Stand up for yourself, use some discipline, set some rules. There is nothing worse than a man who bitches about the 'ol' ball and chain' and then goes home to allow himself to be a doormat.

[jnel921]

Originally posted by BadDad
Let me start by saying, I don't give a damn.

I'm sick of this parenting crap and I WANT OUT!!!!
I'm sick of the needy llittle brats always wanting something, ALWAYS needeing something, I just don't want to go home somtimes. There never quiet, always filthy and messy, ccan't do anything for themselves, and just because my wife (who I'm not so sure IS the right kind of person for me) nagged me to death about having kids! I gave in for this crap? Blech! I'm not gooing to abandon them , but I sure wish I didn't have to be around all this annoying crap anymore. I think I want to leave my nagging, abusive, overweight wife and loud, obnoxious, needy kids and be ALONE foe a few years. What have I done? This marriage, having kids, is like the biggest mistake of freakin life!

Look, I know A lot, if not most parents will see me as the lowest scum of hell for saying what I just did. But I bet their are more Dad's AND moms who feel this way. maybe not always but sometimes.

I tried having kids, and now I find out I hate it.

lol

I understand you.... I know how you feel...I don't want to go home at times too... It's overwhelming and a big change. I often tell people to think about it before they go ahead and do it.

I haven't had peace in a while. I work during the day and when I go home it's back to school, maid work and and trying to be a chef... I'm lucky if I get to bed by 1am and am up at 5:30am to get started again. My husban get's in at 4am and usually wakes me up to talk about his day so I am the walking dead.

Dont feel bad...can I run away with you? I promise to have my own room...lol

[supermom]

Something must change in this household, weather it be counceling or leaving. Your kids I'm sure sence this, have you talked to your wife?

just because my wife (who I'm not so sure IS the right kind of person for me) nagged me to death about having kids! I gave in for this crap? Blech!

Do you feel this way about your wife because of the situation or just because?

You made the decision just as well as your wife to have children right? You don't just try it out, it's a lifetime commitment. Do you ever enjoy your children?

[Karen75]

Dont feel bad...can I run away with you? I promise to have my own room...lol

Can I go every other weekend?

Actually, I have been reading about disciplinary tactics so ti may be better this weekend. If not, I'm going with you!!

K

Good Grief,

10 people answer this post and only 5 get it! Damn that's pretty grim.

MY Kids NEVER see me angry, THEY NEVER suffer at my hands, THEY Hear "I love you no matter what you do", From me! NOT MY WIFE!

I was nagged for over a year about having kids, I should've walked then but I thought she loved me.
We had kids, my first was hard! I had to learn how to be a dad. My wife wouldn'r help, couldn't help, she was learning to be a mom. But don't you all see, she has a built in support system in this world and dad's are second class parents ! we don't get the time of day when it comes to parenting. ANd even thought you might think it's changing. IT aint!

Oh yeah, there's always the "oh your kids need you.." BS
I KNOW THEY NEED ME !! THAT"S WHY I'M SO PISSED!!! THEY NEED ME AND I CAN'T JUST WALK AWAY!! I WANT TO, so bad I can taste it. BUT I DON"T !

WHY?

WHY?

because THEY need ME. I can't believe so many of you don't realize that I'm coming here for help. I wanted to remain anonymous so my wife wouldn't have yet one more thing to put me down about. I am a great Dad, even great dad's come to crisis moments.

I get this sH*T from my bad attitude havin wife all the time. IF I EVER question her on her parenting style, Watch out! But she can TELL me what to do whenever she want's to. If I say "no" or do something differently, or on a different timeframe,she puts me down. I work TWO JOBS for this family! One full one part time. She Does a load of laundry a week, sometimes makes enough dinner for me. She doesn't eat Bonbons, thank god! but she can pack away the cheezits!

Look , to those few who can actually understand, THANK YOU SO MUCH. At least now I have a little to go on. I do think I'll divorce my wife, She's horrible. But I really do love my kids, It's just so hard,

so damn hard..

Ugh, Life is a B**ch, and then you marry one.

[Moose]

Don't put BadDad down, I've felt his pain......5 kids, you know I've felt his pain! It's hard at the end of the day and you just want to go home and veg.....but you have these kids running around and are soooooo loud you have to use closed captioning to understand what you're trying to watch. It's either that, or go to the other side of the house and get harped on by the wife that you're not sitting with the rest of the Fam........you can't win!

Mrs. Moose gets a pass every other month to spend a weekend away at a day spa. I get a break on my business trips....we all need our breaks! I think it'll do Bad Dad a lot of good to run away for a weekend......then when he gets back, he needs to put on the army drill seargent uniform and bust some punk kid's a$$es! ( Not to mention, lay the law down with the Mrs. ).