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Hi everyone;

I am hoping someone can give some insight as I need to do some venting.

I started dating someone about a month ago. We were introduced by a mutual friend about a year ago. At that time, we both weren't ready for a relationship, as we were still getting over a previous one. My current bf has a four year old son with his ex. And him and the mother have been co-parenting.

Since we started seeing each other, we have been joined at the hip. We both have so so many things in common, and he has a lot of qualities that I am looking for. He has expressed the same. Even his son and I get along great.

The concern is that my previous relationship was with a man who shared two children with someone. I was fine and very supportive of the situation. To make a long story short, I found out that he was sneaking between us, and that he wanted to get back with his ex. Once I found out, I broke it off and was completely heartbroken. During our relationship, he always said that he was going to be upfront of the situation, and that he sees us together for a long time to come. At first I was hestitant, but as time went on, I came to trust his words. To find later on that his words were just words.....I was devastated.

My bf is currently in mediation in regards to his son. I accepted him and his son, but I am having misgivings over the relationship with his ex. I guess you can say I am experiencing "deja vu" from my previous relationship, with the current one. My bf says the same things that my ex did, (I will be open with u, I see us together for a long time) and I am scared to get hurt again.

I have been thinking of telling my bf that I need to get some breathing space. If we are not working or at school, we are together at his apartment. I am not sure if I am paranoid or what? LOL....has anyone else been in this type of situation? Thanks.