[blueman]

ok so here is the deal. i broke up with my last gf about 4 to 5 months ago..... it was tough but i got over it and i recently met this girl. She is GORGEOUS smart and very independent which i admire and love. She is also the first girl i have met since my ex that has just blown my doors off like i just loved her presence. So we went on a date two nights ago i picked her up we went to dinner on me and then we went to a lookout spot that was very romantic and we kissed. It was amazing i was just like so into it. Then we go back to her place and she invites me in and for the next 4 hours we are laying on her bed listening to her music talking about everything we can think of and making out. I had so much fun anyways i cant get her out of my mind for more than like ten minutes and i dont wanna get to caught up to quick. We talked the next day briefly but she was going to her guy friends party and then she said she would call me today and she has not done so. I just need some advice on two fronts first how do i play things off so i dont come off so umm desperate or available and second how can i truly teel if she is into me like in terms of how i should expect her to act given our first date outcome and how she should be in the future towards me????? im confused and havent been into a girl like this in a long time so just give me some pointers and i would greatly appreciate it thanks

[Proto]

Alright:


First of all...MAD props to you for playing it cool and not coming across as desperate. Coming here for advice was definitely the right thing to do so I'd say you're in the right frame of mind.


As far as her not calling you, don't sweat it. Wait for a little bit tomorrow and if she doesn't call you back, then go ahead and call her and don't even bring up the fact that she said she would call you. She may just have forgotten or may not have gotten around to it.


Now as far as seeing if she likes you, keep in touch with her and make your conversations on the phone nice and long so that you stay in her train of thought, and ask her if she's busy this weekend. Going out every weekend tells her that you're interested in her AND that you can give her some space during the week.

I think the fact that you guys have made out is already a good indicator that she's into you too, but don't think that she shouldn't call you either. Now this time it's not a big deal, but when you call her tomorrow just say at the end of the convo: "hey if you have a chance call me tomorrow or whenever. And you can call me anytime"

That gives her the clue that it's okay for her to start coming after you a little bit too and might make her feel a little bit more comfortable.


I'd suggest that you guys just do the weekend thing for a while and then maybe step it up later when you feel the time is right. No need to rush into things now. So long as you play it smooth and show interest while not being a leech you're gonna be in good shape. If she doesn't return your calls or says that she's busy on the weekends and can't hang out, oh well. You played it correctly and any hesitation that may be there will be solely on her, and not because of anything you did.


Good luck playa!

[clandestinidad]

I absolutely agree with Proto! That was great advice. I especially admire the fact that he didnt tell you any games to play, like some other people like to tell people. Sounds like youre headed in a great direction with this girl!!! I wish you the best!!!

[blueman]

thanks to both of you she called a little while ago and she is coming over tonight to hang out so yea im stoked its pretty exciting to be into a girl even more than my ex and for anyone reading this who is having a hard time with their breakup i am living proof that there are so many better fish in the sea givie it time and it will come back...