[averis]

It was my exs birthday yesterday and i totally ignored it! Its only been 2 months today since we said we'd give it another shot then three dys later shes with one someone else, anyway i didnt send her a card, rang her, or made any effort i just totally ignored it!
Its only been 2 weeks since she came up my house and started giving off mixed messages(like i dont love him im using him to get over you!)
But i know my ex isnt a treat em mean keep em keen kind of girl, she likes you to be honest and open with her!
but im thinking now have i done the right thing by ignoring her birthday or should i send her a belated card wishing her the best and that i still think of her? Im worried if i do that she will think im putty in her hands again?

Plz advise,

Cheers folks,

Averis.

[heckno]

Duh, you answered your own question. She's playing games with you, seriously. The best thing you can do is forget she exsists until she grows up. No birthday card or call or whatever, was totally acceptable.

[Weird]

I say you were fine in not saying happy bday to her. Don't sweat it son

[tattoomytoe]

that is what being an ex does....nothing.

you should not have to concern yourself with her......that is why you two are no longer.

[averis]

yea youre right i suppose i did answer my own question but it always sounds better coming from someone else do you know what i mean? maybe thats just me but its the same old, i give advice or perspective to people but do you think i can follow it myself? crazy aint it!

[tattoomytoe]

no, it is often easier to do what someone else "tells" you, that way if it screws up someway, you blame the advisor and not yourself.

[MissingHerBad]

Yea I mailed my girlfriend a card.....Two days later I asked her if she got it...she said "oh yea. thanks" .......... Dont let her do it to you.

[averis]

funny you should mention that, she has a child through a previous relationship, and it was her birthday in oct, i sent her a card with a tenner in it, she never said anything and when i rang her she said (pretty much the same) oh yea thanks for the card, so youre right shed prob just do the same thing or not even acknowledge.

[alphamale]

Do NOTHING