[jcweik]

Every girl i meet i compare to my ex And no matter how good they are, they don't compare to her, well they prolly do, but not to me. My ex and I have been seperated since before summer. It was realy realy rough on me, but some how i got through it. I started to date, alot actually. And no matter how perfect the girl is, she isn't good enough

When does this stop? Ultimately, I'd just like my ex back, but I don't know how to do that. We are on good terms, she asks me to hang out, but I'm scared heh.

[sylviaguardian]

How long ago did you break up with your ex? Have you ever thought of not dating for a while until you get your head together. I would hazard a guess that it takes at least a year to get over if the person was really important to you. If you go straight into another realtionship it will be hard to give that person a real chance.

Also, you probably don't want to hear this but if you want your ex back and she doesn't want to, but still wants to hang around with you, you are never going to have the chance to get over it. Ask yourself why you are hanging around with her. If it's because you enjoy her company, fine. If it's because you can't be without her, that's not so fine for you in the long run. Consider having a break from seeing her. It's hard but you can't make an omelette without breaking eggs (if you know what I mean).

Good luck
Sylvia

[Weird]

there si the possibility that the girls you meet just aren't as good as your ex and if that is the case then there isn't anything you can do about it other than meet girls who are better. Then again, maybe there aren't any that are better than her...or maybe this is all in your head and you aren't seeing the other girls in a clear light. I don't know.

Too many people here act like no matter what, a person will meet someone better than their ex. They fail to realize that in some cases the ex really was THAT good/complete a person. I amnot promoting people never be with anyone else but am just merely saying that sometimes the ex was the "complete package"

[jcweik]

If she doesn't want to be with me i see no point in her calling me at 4 am. Or asking me to go to partys with her, when she knew i had other plans. I'm sick of all this:/

[Merin]

JC.. Maybe you're just not ready to move into the next "serious" relationship.. and thats all okay.

Don't force yourself to date people that you really have no interest in dating.. and don't place such high expectations on how you think you "should feel"

I really think that sometimes ppl tend to look at past relationships with rose colored glasses.. know what I mean? I'm not saying your EX wasn't or isn't a great person.. or even that the relationship wasn't pretty damn good when it was the 2 of you.. but there is also a reason why it ended..

If you feel you can still be friends with her.. all you and more power to ya. However.. sometimes I think you've got to put boundries on those kinds of "friendships" by telling the other person.. "It's not okay with me for you to call me at 4 in the morning" or talk to me about your new bfs.. whatever the case may be that is causing you distress..

Hang in there

[jcweik]

The distress is caused wondering if she still likes me or not. I mean honestly, who calls "Friends" at 4 am in the morning. I don't call family that late, i sure wouldn't call friends..


Omg you have to change your avatar!

[Merin]

Originally posted by jcweik
The distress is caused wondering if she still likes me or not. I mean honestly, who calls "Friends" at 4 am in the morning. I don't call family that late, i sure wouldn't call friends..


Omg you have to change your avatar!

I don't call anyone that late..

What should I change my avatar too?

Hang in there!