hey everyone. I would like to first thank those who have written and have helped me with this difficult time. My Ex had said some not nice things to me. I know she is having a rough time and that it was not all aimed at me. The point is she called and invited me to thanksgiving because she does not want me to be alone. My question is this. If she realy wanted me to forget about her and remove her from the picture, why is it that she would invite me to this holiday with her and her family. She has me so confused. On one hand she wants space and then she wants to be done with me, and now this. Please someone help me interpret her actions. Her mother said she is just confused right now and is at a cross roads. What should I make of all of this. I love her and miss her andf would kill for another chance. she is 27 i am 26. She has a lot going on right now. her father wants nothing to do with her. her parents are in a nasty divorce. her cat just died. and then there is me who was sort of selfish for a while, but was always faithful and always loved her even though at times i was unemotional and unaffectionate. I made mistakes but i am changing. I just wonder if once she clears her head of the parents divorce and her father hating her if she will ever want to give me another chance.

so that is the basic part of the story please help me with this confusing situation. I do not want to lose this woman.

[head/heels]

go, act like it is no big deal that she invited you and subtly show her the you that you didnt show her earlier when you had the first chance...

dont expect anything and dont do anything ...let her do it and if she makes any moves...dont give in

it is probably a test and dont let her see any part of you that wants her back...she will instinctively not want you back....

just be cool as a cucumber.. she will see that you are not so easy to get back and have changed from that sniveling panty waste you were in the beginning...

YOU ARE A NEW MAN.... A MAN!

AND YOU ARE A MAN THAT WONT TAKE HER GAMES AND KNOWS HE IS WORTH A REAL APPRECIATIVE WOMAN...

MAKE HER EARN YOU BACK AND THEN DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES TWICE ....BE CAREFUL!

[UnicornGirl]

I strongly agree with head/heels. Show your strength and resilience, and be loving in every thing you do. But don't get back together too soon, don't get physical or too cuddly right now. I promise you, little steps make all the difference. Remember when you first start dating someone? Even if you're wild about them, you're cautious, you take small steps to further the connection. Make all the little positive experiences count, and don't let yourself get used or trampled on! Be strong.