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Let me start off by giving a little background information. I am a 24 year old female and my 'boyfriend' is 18. We also work together. He has been working there for about 7 months. Not long after he started working with me he started being very flirty and I never thought anything of it. I always looked at him as a little brother. Well about a few months ago he told me that he liked me. I had never thought of him that way because of his age. Well I turned him down (very gently). He continued pursing me, and finally I gave in once I looked past his age. Everything about us seemed different than every other relationship either of us had ever had. We felt sparks with every kiss, not just the first. I know he felt the same as I did, there was no question about that. I was actually happy in a relationship for the very first time.

Well about a 2 weeks ago things started getting strange. "We" were fine. However, his life started getting a little topsy turvy. All kinds of things were going wrong, and he had many things on his mind. There is one thing that weighed on his mind more than anything. He had to make a decision about work and school and what roads to persue to get him to where he wants to be in life. This decision is all he ever thinks about and it is causing him a lot of stress. The more stressful things got the more he would back away from me and would'nt talk to me about what was going on. I asked him whether he was having second thoughts about us and he said that he wasn't.

Last week, I decided to try one last time to get him to talk. He decided this time that he would talk to me. He made sure to start the conversation out by telling me how he had finally found someone he really likes in me. He started talking about the decision that he needs to make with work and school and how important it is. (Which I do Understand). He said that he wants to put "us" on hold until he works through all of this. He said many times how much he really likes me. He told me he wants to give me all of his attention, but that he can't do that right now with all of this stress on him. He asked if I could give him time, and I told him I would give him all of the time in the world. I asked if he would be seeing anyone else during this time and he said "No, I told you, that I finally found someone I really like".

Well he treats me completely different now. I know we aren't together, but its different than that. He doesn't want me to touch him at all. Not even to put my hand on his arm or anything. He is cold and distant to me, but not to anyone else. He will hug other female coworkers, but not me. I asked him if there was more to the story than what he told me and he promises me there isn't. I asked him yesterday if he was actually coming back and he said "Yes I am, once all my decisions are made". The only thing I have to go on is the fact that he still looks into my eyes every time he talks to me.

Everyone is telling me that he just took the easy way out. I don't know what to believe, and it is tearing me apart everyday. I don't want to go to work anymore. I can't stand to be there with him and not be able to be near him. I am so confused. Is he lying to me? Did he really take the easy way out? Is he really coming back???