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Old 5th November 2004, 2:02 PM   #1
mysticalstar
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Did I overreact?

Hello everyone! I have a question! I have been with my boyfriend now for about 2 months and we really like each other. In the beginning of our relationship when we were just "dating" and nothing serious, he ended up kissing another girl. So i broke things off with him and then he started dating her for about a week. After that he came crawling back to me and we got back together. Well things have been going really good and I finally got my trust for him back. Well last night he went out with his guy friends and got drunk and I went out with my friends for the night. He called me a little into the night and asked me if I would have a problem if the same girl he hooked up with before and cheated on me with if she could come over and hang out with him and his friends. He said that he didn't want her over but that his roommates and friend did. Well I did have a problem with it, a major problem with it. So i told him that and he said she would not go over then. So what do you know, right as i was getting of of the phone with him, he said she walked through the door. Well I blew up and was like So much for ****ing guys night. Well then we got into a huge fight and he was pissed. We went back and forth and he kept bringing up the whole trust thing and if i didn't trust him than we are done right then and there. Well it isn't that I dont trust him, i dont trust her and I just don't like the idea that she was over there. He should have had a little respect and invited me over or something. Well anyways...I hung up on him, and he shut his phone off. He was being a complete *******. But then a few hours later he called me and asked if i would go and pick him up. I did, we talked a little about it, but he was kinda drunk. So the next day, we talked a little bit more about it and he got all pissed at me again and acted really weird. I just was very upset. Do you think I am overreacting? I know i need to get over it, but do you think that was rude of him? I don't know why he would have acted so weird about it. We kinda dropped it but he is still mad at me I think. If anyone has any input i would love to hear it! Thanks so much.
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Old 5th November 2004, 2:07 PM   #2
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He sounds like a toolshed. Sounds like he only called you a few hours later because he was drunk and needed a ride. He could have done any number of things: told the boys not to invite the girl over, left there himself, invited you over as well. Why weren't you invited in the first place? Obviously it wasn't just a "guy thing" if she was there.

Loser!!!! I wouldn't stand for it. Its a respect and trust issue.
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Old 5th November 2004, 2:29 PM   #3
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Well it isn't that I dont trust him, i dont trust her and I just don't like the idea that she was over there.

You either trust him or you don't - it's got nothing to do with her.

I get the impression that he was going back to his place & his room-mates & some other friend invited her along. Is that the case? If so that puts him in an awkward position of having to tell his room-mate(s) who they can & can't have over. Regardless, he screwed up in that he should have simply left there & stayed with you or immediately have invited you over. It's no longer a guys night when she's invited along. Of course he could have not called you at all - so I guess he deserves some credit?
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