LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Romantic > Dating

Sexless and Needing it

Register Community Guidelines FAQ Journals Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

Dating Dating, courting, or going steady? Things not working out the way you had hoped? Stand up on your soap box and let us know what's going on!

Old 4th November 2004, 3:49 PM   #1
killerlooks
Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Posts: 35
Sexless and Needing it

Sorry, I meant to post this in this forum before
I definitely need some help. I haven't dated in six years after my divorce and recently a really hot guy started working at the company down the hall from me. I really want to get with this guy. I haven't had sex in six years and would definitely be up to it with this guy - but that's not the only reason why I would go out with him - companionship and all that. Being out of the whole dating scene I don't even know how to approach him, how to figure out if he is single. I spoke to him in the elevator one day and I try all that eye contact and smiling sh*t but we work in completely different offices so I only really see him by chance. I took some muffins into his company but other people and he came and introduced himself to me but other people were there, plus I was a little flustered. Help me before I die of frustration. He is really hot with a nice ass. I am 36 and I have no idea how old he is - younger than me I think but for sure legal
killerlooks is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 4th November 2004, 4:44 PM   #2
ChattGirl
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 15
Okay, I don't have a problem snagging the guys.. It's just keeping them or what to with them after I get them... So, I will let you in on my secret, but the rest is up to you, once you get him... LOL

Wear the most awesome outfit you have.... (I have this kick a$$ red dress that comes right above the knee with black boots). Yes, it gets everyone's attention, male and female alike...
Anyway, go into his office and say, could you ask "Insert His Name Here".... to come up front and discreetly take him out into the hall or outside and ask him to lunch. If you know his phone number and don't want to do it face to face, call him and ask him over the phone. Warm him up, be upbeat and friendly and introduce who you are... Tell him you don't know if he is seeing anyone, but that you have noticed him on the elevator and that you would like to know if he would like to go to lunch. (I'm sure he will stop you with the, "I'm attached/married/celebate" before you got to the invitation). You don't have much to lose. He works in another office.

Just do it girl. In the end you will be glad you did.
ChattGirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 9:47 AM   #3
killerlooks
Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Posts: 35
Wow!! You are very confident. I guess thats one way to get an immediate answer and cut through the bullsh*t. I don't know if I have that amount of guts.
killerlooks is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 9:53 AM   #4
ChattGirl
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 15
Well, right now you are only driving yourself crazy with the "what if" scenario, once you do it, you will know. Come on... Life's Too Short!
ChattGirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 11:19 AM   #5
killerlooks
Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Posts: 35
Okay, even though it is totally against my personality and I would prefer if he asked me out so that I can be sure the interest is there. Don't forget I have n't dated in 6 years so I am totally out of the whole game - I am trying to work up the courage to do this.
killerlooks is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 12:09 PM   #6
killerlooks
Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Posts: 35
Okay, I think I am barking up the wrong tree. I just ran into him in the hallway and he wasn't even making eye contact with me or anything. Maybe I should just leave it alone. Like I said, I 've been out of this for quite a while so not feeling very secure and don't want to be rejected on my first attempt.
killerlooks is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 12:17 PM   #7
ChattGirl
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 15
Okay, if you are getting definite signals that he is not into you... like the no eye contact or the body language is just off, don't do it. However, that doesn't mean that you can't make the most of every opportunity. Just make sure you look your best, hair looking great, makeup on, head high... A positive self image will draw people to you. Also, if you don't have a great smelling perfume, get one.... That will make melt... Like I've said, I don't have a problem getting 'em... It's getting the right one for me...

You will find yours too, just be confident.
ChattGirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 12:18 PM   #8
EC
Established Member
 
EC's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Florida
Posts: 3,756
He was probably busy.....or thinking and didn't notice you were there...

I think you should just do it...if he's taken or whatever you move on and thats it...It's not that serious and you need some!! Think about the nookie.. lol
__________________
The male brain is more compartmentalized than the female brain. Men can seperate things whereas women have a harder time cause their brains are all wired together in some inter-connected mish-mosh.

WHAT IF Love wasn't so hard?? Then what?
EC is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 12:33 PM   #9
killerlooks
Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Posts: 35
I was hoping he was just shy or something because that ass has it goin on. Next time I will have to get closer to see if the pupils are dilated like they say in all the articles Maybe I should just be blunt and say you have quite the nice ass can I tap that. lol
killerlooks is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 12:39 PM   #10
EC
Established Member
 
EC's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Florida
Posts: 3,756
LMAO

"Excuse me Mr. (insert name here), you don't know me but I would really like to Tap dat A$$!!....so whaddya say?"
EC is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 12:41 PM   #11
ChattGirl
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 15
Just tell him you are digging his chili and would he hook the sista up and come off a little sumpin sumpin for ya!! JUST DO IT!!

You could always call him....
ChattGirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 12:45 PM   #12
killerlooks
Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Posts: 35
Too funny! Wish I had the balls to do it. Actually, wish I had his balls to do it.
killerlooks is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 12:50 PM   #13
ChattGirl
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 15
Go Killer, It's Yo' Birthday...
ChattGirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 1:14 PM   #14
SoleMate
Established Member
 
SoleMate's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: California
Posts: 2,942
My advice...find your sex and companionship OUTSIDE the office. Or be prepared to look for a new job.

Lots of men out there, honey. Some of them are shy. You need to go find THEM.
__________________
Heavily medicated for your safety.
SoleMate is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 5th November 2004, 1:27 PM   #15
ThumbingMyWay
Established Member
 
ThumbingMyWay's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: wisco
Posts: 1,431
Quote:
Too funny! Wish I had the balls to do it. Actually, wish I had his balls to do it.

Just tell him you are digging his chili and would he hook the sista up and come off a little sumpin sumpin for ya!! JUST DO IT!!

"Excuse me Mr. (insert name here), you don't know me but I would really like to Tap dat A$$!!....so whaddya say?"

It's not that serious and you need some!! Think about the nookie.. lol



this is why I come to LS......I love all of the women on here.....

and whatever you do KL.....keep us posted....
__________________
theres 3 sides to every story: yours, thiers and the truth
ThumbingMyWay is offline   Reply With Quote
 

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 
Forum Jump

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
sexless marriage seashelly Marriage & Life Partnerships 24 10th February 2006 7:36 PM
Sexless weekend Suzanka Dating 9 12th January 2005 1:14 AM
SEXLESS.!! gaaaah! zilverenvlinder Dating 5 3rd January 2005 6:05 PM
Sexless and needing it killerlooks Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy 2 4th November 2004 1:49 PM
Suddenly Sexless!! Margaret Archive 3 28th March 2000 10:30 PM

 

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 4:16 PM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2008 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.