[sporteguy03]

Hi,
Recently at my workplace there have been Halloween Parties, videogame nights etc. I overhear from people about these events but never get a "formal" invitation to go. After the events many people at work ask why did I not go? I say well I was not invited. Many come back and say by hearing about it through people I was invited. I disagree. I'm 24, many of these people are college aged alittle younger, when I go out with older adults say in their 30s I do get an invite. Should I just go to these things or get an invite? I don't want to go if I'm not welcomed.....Thank you for your advice.

[hulavie]

I feel that if the events are organised by your company or department, then you are naturally invited. Unless if the get togethers are organised by just a few people in your company and may include outsiders, then it would not be considered a formal event and even I would wait for an invite instead of just attending like that.

[sporteguy03]

These events are scheduled by people in the company not by the company itself. For some reasonthe people tell me after I should have gone, but why not just invite me to begin with then? I just find it rude to go up to someone and ask if I can go? Is this typical among young people the "no-invitation needed" invite or do most people get invited?

[HokeyReligions]

Try this the next time someone says "why didn't you come?"

"I didn't know about it! Sounds like you had a good time -- the next time you plan to get together, let me know okay?"


I worked for a company that was very similar to what you described. I was the 'newbie' and unsure of where I stood in the team outside of work. I used that line a few times and before I knew it, I was casually invited to a variety of different activities and the invitation was not formal, but more of a "you coming?" question or simply being included in the planning. I also stepped up and planned/organized a few outings myself.

Now, I am more outgoing and when I'm planning something with co-workers I always make sure to include newbies because I know how they feel!

Don't be afraid to say "I'd like to be part of the team, is this shindig open to anyone? How can I help?" (another way I've phrased things so that I could be included.)

[ziggue]

Maybe they just assumed you would go because you had heard about it around the office?

At my work you find out things through Email. Since I don't have Email so that makes it a bit hard so I have to find out through posters on the wall, asking and word of mouth.

In my department it seems like you are automatically invited to something because you work there. Still you have to double check if you wanna bring a date or a friend along.

Does your workplace have a social club? I recently just joined mine. Things are gonna be a little cheaper for me now when I go out to social club outings. . For a non member things cost a little bit extra.